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Stay with my girlfriend when shes pregnant with a babie thats not mine?

Even though we slept together on the first night i decided not to let it be a one night stand and stay in touch. Soon we connected and I made her my girl and we have been dating for 5 months. she's 6 months pregnant. Her ex and her had sex once before I met her and that got her pregnant (or she says). Her ex left the state and is now married and wants nothing to do with her. I think she got herself pregnant to try and force him to stay. She denied this. She didn't tell me till yesterday and I never really noticed her belly, its not that big. She's very slender with big hips and a big booty, I figured she just put on alittle weight. I love her so much I wanna be there for her and her daughter. She even wants to give her my last name. I was going to stay with her but today I found out she's been creeping with other guys. She cried and begged me not to break us up. She says she'll changher number, and has erased her Facebook, and says she wont have any more guy friends. She even said she'll tattoo my name across her chest to show her commitment. She's a Foster child with daddy issues, emotional issues, social issues. She is soo beautiful, colored eyes, caucasian, and I love her to death, but I just need to know if I'm making a mistake. She used to model, and because of her past shes the sweetest, nicest, person i know. But because of that, shes also been used and mistreated. I don't tell anyone this in real life because I don't want them to judge me. I wanna hear the views of someone not in the situation. Thanks in advanced.

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  • 9 years ago
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    The sad truth about people is that they tend to be a creature of habit. Its all in your ball park as to HOW much are you willing to put up with. Kids are a BIG responsibility. Are you or do you think you can be ready to be called Daddy by a kid that is from another guy?? And what IF she DOES go back to "talking" to other guys?? Plus, how much can someone REALLY love you- if they are "talking" to others??

    My opinion- i don't trust shadiness like that. Been there and done that for 3 years. And I kept my promise and didn't put up with at all after that. When it comes to the father part- if she was faithful and you did love her to the point you could even stand a forever relationship- then blood shouldnt stop you for loving the baby if you want to. Blood doesn't make a dad. But don't let her "life" excuses bring you down. HER life is what she is making it right now. And if you are a good guy then she should see that and do everything she can to keep you.... not "mingle" with others.

  • regardless if you want to stay with her or not, since you believe the kid is not yours biologically, DO NOT sign the birth certificate or give her your last name. A friend of mine was married then she got pregnant 2-3 months later and he believed the child to be his, the baby girl has his name and he signed the birth certificate, after he discovered that she was cheating on him, he had a paternity test done, the child was NOT his. Even though he had proof the baby was not his, and that his "wife" lied about the possibliity of another potential father, he (my friend) was forced to pay child support since he signed the birth certificate.

  • 9 years ago

    I honestly believe if she's creeping around now, there's no doubt she won't do it again. You'll always be suspicious.... I would leave. My last man ****** me over once I gave him a chance and he ****** me over twice so now I'm single, happy n over it. My best guess is give it some time and see how you feel. Love is a hard thing to find. I hope you choose the best for you. Good luck

  • 9 years ago

    you sound like a really sweet guy, for you to consider staying with her after she has lied and snuck around with MORE than one guy you must really love her, and also the fact you are willing to raise the baby girl as your own is amazing, you are a keeper and if you love her and would do this for her, shes an idiot to treat you like crap you dont deserve that, it could work, but being a parent is so so challenging, especially knowing that baby is not yours, if it happens again id leave, but you could give it a shot.

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  • 9 years ago

    Honestly if you love her that much, go for it. Raise the kid, make a family, be happy.

    But you have to tell yourself this, and you have to pound it into your head, if you ever, ever, ever, ever catch her doing anything with anyone else. And she begs you to forgive her, pleads, tries to do anything to make you take her back, you have to leave. I've known to many people like this, they will always re offend, no matter how much you think they won't... They will.

    Hope that wasn't to deep for you.

  • 9 years ago

    Your insecure girlfriend with emotional issues who cheats on you is pregnant with someone else's baby and you want to know if you should listen to her outlandish and inappropriate promises and stay with her.

    This girl needs more help than you can give her.

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    9 years ago

    Do you truly love her? If you truly love her, nothing else should matter. Love needs to be unconditional man! It's gotta be extraordinary! I think it would be very honorable for you to stay with her and help her raise the child as if it was your own.

  • 9 years ago

    RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN

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