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Looking around when talking? Lack of eye contact?
There is this guy I consider him a friend (platonic). I will admit we went out to dinner a few times (he asked me when we first met). We had a great time, use to talk, text all the time, he would stop by my office and visit me to say hi. He would flirt with me, compliment me etc (but we never did anything more) than I mentioned on here.
As time went on I started to like him and I told him a few months ago that I liked him ( that was all) never mentioned anything else . Well he said he enjoyed our friendship and didn't want to ruin it. I accepted the answer and kept it on a friendship level to this day (platonic).
When we use to talk he would give complete eye contact.
Well now I noticed when he talks to me in person, he now barely gives me eye contact. He starts with eye contact in the beginning (very brief) then starts looking around while still talking. I looked over to see if he was looking at something or someone when he did it yesterday, there was nothing or no one around. Just us two standing there talking.
Why would someone go from assertive (eye contact originally) to all over the place limited eye contact?
Its confusing and bad manners. I don't want to be rude and ask why he does it now. Its just bothersome to me now that he does this. Even if I asked he would probably be to embarrassed to tell me the truth.
That fine he's not into me as I mentioned I keep it strictly friendly (platonic). This guy is not a foreigner and is 100% american. Its not a cultural thing.
It is just rude and annoying. I give people eye contact whether they are friends or not when I speak or hold a conversation.
4 Answers
- ?Lv 49 years agoFavorite Answer
Um, he's probably not that into you, to be honest cuz you said it was his idea to go to dinner you said you liked him and he basically turned you down.now he's being avoidant doesn't sound like he's head over heels ( PROVIDED he's not super shy). if a girl said that to me who i knew and was into I'd be all over her i'd be real relaxed. he might be embarrassed now that he thinks like wow this girl likes me i can't just be me, sucks. course all guys are different. i wish more girls were like u tho that's pretty cool how you just said it. chase him if u want him, tho i know thats the last thing girls want to do :)
oh one more thing some guys not me but some are into the thrill of the chase, it's possible now that he knows you like him he's just lost interest even in being around u. i wouldnt buy the friendship excuse that's almost guaranteed bs
- Anonymous9 years ago
I have someone at my job who is like this. He will not look you in the eye. If you do look him in the face he will look away. To some people it's a cultural difference. Others a sigh of disrespect. Some are shy. Some just don't like people to stare. I don't know why some people look so much into this. I would be considered if they have their eyes elsewhere. Then there is a problem.
- Sir JamLv 79 years ago
In certain cultures it is actually considered rude to maintain eye contact.
Caribbean people are taught that it is rude to do this. However, in Britain, it is considered rude to avert your gaze and avoid eye contact. Therefore in the 1960's and 1970's many young Caribbean guys living in London found themselves being arrested "on suspicion" simply because they avoided sustained eye contact when being spoken to by the officer
