How do u stay happy after being married for many years.?

I have been with my wife for ten going on eleven if he does not wan to make time for his wife spouse than maybe you should not spend time with him get your self a baby sitter and go your own way.. You are still yourself at the end of the day and if he can't respect your feelings and do what you like sometimes it will never work out its a 50/50 relationship. TELL HIM MAKE TIME.. Is it only the sex that he cares about?? Answer that. Remember women have a choice now a days were not In the 20's no more...

I can't answer what can keep you happy in a marriage, but I can tell you what has kept me happy. After 23 years together as of May 19, my wife and I have always been best friends. We talk about things...things that have nothing to do with our day-to-day marriage. We watch science channel-esque shows and the like. Then we discuss why we agree or disagree with the conclusions. We shop together. We laugh with our daughter, together. She rubs my neck during commercials, and I play with her hair in the car.

It's a million tiny things, loving things, done daily that makes the tough days bearable. You both have the ability to do tiny little things to make the day better. "Happy" is not in my vocabulary anymore. I'm blessed with my wife, content with my life, and never have to face a challenge alone. I don't want "happy" if I have to lose any of the other things.

Imagine life without your kid(s) or husband, and let it remind you of the "happier" times. Then, remake them with sharing and caring, and a few of the million little things.

Good luck.

Give and take, which it sounds like he's not very good at. Tell him how you feel, if he is indifferent to you, then move on. Some marriages can last forever, but it takes both sides working on it, not just one. If he really wants to try, you might suggest counseling. Sometimes a third person's insight can make a big difference, since most men believe they are always right in their ways.

We've been lied to about lifetime marriages being fullfilling and good. The're not. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with the same peron? Yuck. It sounds awefully stiffling to me.