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He does not want me- how can I get this through my head?

After being led on for several months I told him I needed to know if he had any intention of dating me. In short, the answer was no. Why can't I make myself believe this?

Shortly before I asked we had been cuddling and he was very affectionate, nuzzling my cheek and playing footsie and always being the one to pull me closer to him. I guess he just wanted a cuddle buddy.

I want to keep seeing him so bad but he does not want me! I don't know how to convince myself of this! I have a false hope that he'll eventually fall for me if I keep seeing him... :(

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  • 9 years ago
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    Stop doing this to yourself by staying around too long you will get sick emotionally if you keep thinking that in the future he might think otherwise and date you. I think you are just booty call. You deserve so much better. Even if it hurts you need to move on.

    You are just companion for the moment and that's all. He has needs that sucks so do you, so you keep going back to him, but at the end you are hurting yourself because he can easily move on and you can't so MOVE ON with your life now before its too late.

    You Deserve someone who wants to date you.

    Good Luck

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    You need to stop seeing him and stop talking to him.

    1. He might have a girlfriend that you don't know about

    2. He might be seeing other people and isn't sure who he wants

    3. He might be afraid of commitment

    4. He is an asshole player

    Leave him alone and tell him you don't just want to be 'a bit on the side' that your 'feelings are greater than that' and you 'want something more'. Give him time to think about what you said and let him miss you. If he comes back then make it clear what you want because this isn't fair on you and he should have let you know what he wanted in the first place. Good luck!

  • ?
    Lv 6
    9 years ago

    I think you have too much free times so you have been thinking about him. I suggest try to busy yourself with work, school, friends, and other activity. Don't be alone because you would think about him. I think you should go with your guts. If you really feel like this guy don't love you or being real with you, then you should move on from him. Don't waste your youth and valuable times for a guy that doesn't make you feel loved or make you feel like he wants you badly. You deserve someone who is better. Just think about it and decide if you should break up with him or not. If he begs you not to, then give him a chance and see how things go. if it is still not working out, then just move on. Go hangout with friends more. Watch movies in alone time. Keep yourself busy and you'll forget anyone that you want.

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  • 9 years ago

    You already know this to be the truth, you have said so yourself. You are probably afraid of the pain you will feel in admitting this to yourself, but you will find that in accepting this truth, you will be in less pain than you were when you were living in a lie. Admitting this to yourself isn't as hard as you think. It's just as easy as, well....admitting it, and embracing the fact that you are speaking the truth to yourself. Seek sanctuary in friends, family, and your relationship with yourself. Maybe even find comfort in spirituality. As long as you have something to hold onto (and there always is, no matter how small) you can live on. Trust me, I've been through it...<3 Best of luck.

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  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    okay, first off, youre gonna have to accept that ur not gonna be able to get over this right away. "only time can heal a broken heart" and thats true. also, i know this might seem hard but try not to think about him as much as you can, or think of how better off u r without him - ask yourself why u r letting a guy who doesnt even care about u mess with your emotions. he led u on and that wasnt right of him - dont waste ur time on a guy who does this, hes not worth it. there r so many other guys out there. also try to talk about it with some friends if u feel like it or just hang out with them to get ur mind off of him. truthfully, ur prob gonna feel like this for a few weeks, but as time goes on youll forget about him and convince urself that u dont need him or like him anymore. oh and one more thing: STAY AWAY FROM HIM. or else ur feelings for him will be twice as hard to get rid of.

    hope i helped:)

  • angel
    Lv 4
    9 years ago

    He is playing with you ditch him and find someone else his games are wrong and unhuman

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    It's probably just karma wuahahaha.

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