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josh j asked in HealthMental Health · 9 years ago

insecure please help. relationship advice?

always doubting and asking my girlfriend if she loves me and wants to be with me and would it drive her away if i carried this on...

i know i shouldnt be like this but im so insecure and i dont understand why, everyone says im a good looking guy and i get girls easy....but im still insecure it pisses me off

feel like i need reasurrance all the time...

now what i wanted to know would this drive her away and how??

i dont want to carry on l;ike this...i feel like everything good will go wrong, i just want to be confident how do i changeee???

please give advice i'm 22 yr old male :)

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  • 9 years ago
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    Well, the good news is that you're at the end of your industry vs. inferiority stage. That tends to be when we feel most insecure about ourselves. Moving into your identity phase next also presents many challenges for self-esteem.

    The exercise I give my clients is to write down all your strengths, skills, and accomplishments. This reminds you of you abilities. The other side of the paper is your short and long term goals. This gives you direction. Keep adding or changing it as time goes on. Include social and relationships goals as well.

    Footnote: If you are interested in Erikson's psychosocial stages(identity) try his book: "Childhood and Society" is one of the best works in the field. GOOD LUCK

    Source(s): Therapist of 30 yrs.
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