insecurity issue? please help?

stop asking your girlfriend those questions, you will push her away. btw I have the same problem, my gf constantly tells me im hot, and my frineds and family tell me im alright, but when I look in the mirror all I see is a chubby, pimple ridden teenager. I guess theres not much you can do to change, eventually the feelings will go away. For the mean times just try to stop telling everyone your feelings, i've lost a far few friends dew to my bitching about my looks.

Hi there,

In a past relationship has someone messed with you and left without explanation? And you think she might? Or has someone in the past really hurt you and you keep on thinking another relationship will turn out the same?

Yes you will drive her away if you carry on - but you have to find out why you are always doubting her? don’t you trust her? Do you think she can do better? - which by the way I’m positive isn’t the case! :o)

You should have trust

You should not doubt her unless she has given you reason too?

Maybe right down some stuff your insecure about - then write by them why that is the case - and then how you could possibly change things?

oh and stay awake god dam it people like you and need you and im sure think the world of ya!!!! lol x

Some decent answers above.

I'd also say that you can 'train' yourself out of insecurity. If you spend enough time acting like you're confident, your confidence improves. Likewise, if you ask for reassurance every time you feel a bit insecure, you are training yourself to remain insecure.

Look at the reality of the situation. Why does she spend time with you? Do you force her to? Have you hypnotised her or brainwashed her? I suspect not. So - she spends time with you because she wants to. Why ask her something you already have the answer to?

There is also the fact that you're at an age when you're still finding out a lot about yourself - finding out what your own values are, and perhaps rejecting some of the values you've been 'expected' to have. It can be difficult to accept that people like us for who we are, when we don't feel sure of who we are ourselves. For the most open-minded people, the whole of life is a journey - and if someone you like wants to accompany you - even if it turned out not to be forever - that seems like a good thing to me.

Im a 23 year old female and constantly obsess over my boyfriends love for me I ask him everyday why hes with me if he loves me etc but mine stems frim his ex saying she slept with him which I believe even though his family have said shes nuts I cant get over it and dont trust him I do think ill drive hin away if I carry on but he says he wouldnt put up with all the crap I give him if he didnt love me but im still not convinced I dunno wot I want from this relationship but I just feel like I love him more than he does me hes like my obsession

Man up! deal with it :)

mate if you are just not enjoying life that why are u still living???