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Lately I feel that my wife has to oppose everything that I say/do/feel/etc...?

Within the last 3 months or so I've felt that my wife tends to oppose everything that I do. It's like we are oil and vinegar. If I feel a certain way, rather than just try to make me feel better, she makes me feel as if I'm wrong for feeling the way that I feel. I know that our cultures clash (she's Gujarati Indian, I'm black) but I've never felt this way before. I'm beginning to worry that we may be growing apart. Lately the issues we have are:

money

family values (she's very close to hers, I'm not)

lack of freedom (On my end)

I just want things to be comfortable and not complicated. Any ideas?

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  • ?
    Lv 7
    9 years ago
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    You need to address why he doesn't care. You need to address what are foundation of why we fight. Find ways to fix it. When talking to partner just hug while saying it. You can ask things if you need answers on yahoo answers. Write down before you talk to him. Talk in a private place with time to talk. Get to the bottom of things. Things needs to change because both of you deserve a happy life always.

    Hire a Private Investigator and never let him know. This is protect the family at all times

    After 7 years of perfect marriage then a child if desired.

    If things are minor I usually just wouldn't even give it a second thought. If it is major I just fix it the best way and that's it. Maybe this will be a good method for you guys. Always reinforce it with Love

    When you marry if you do decide to then make sure you don't play games and straight forward to your wife. Make sure you protect your family from outside by working only and your wife is a stay at home mom. NOTE if she makes double your wage, you better stay at home instead. You can do all the home manly things. If plumber or whatever needs to go to the house make sure you see them the whole time. Give love to your wife always and hear her out and then you have to make the decision. Also be responsible for the family. Make love to her as much as she wants. Be attentive to the kids and your wife. Make sure you save, pay your car with cash, your house with cash and then retirement. Make sure you raise your kids right to be good adults. Make sure you stay fit, try to be handsome even if you think it is silly or waste of time or you think you don't. Take a shower 1 to 2 times a day. Make sure you smell good. Make sure you have good breathe. Make sure you go to the restroom when she is not around for number 2 or 3. Make sure you are organized. Make sure you dress decent at all time (wear the favor t-shirt with holes under your other shirt). Make sure she knows she is appreciated and important to you and the family. If it is her or them it is always her as long as it makes sense. Them can always be second, but she is first. MUST make sense. When she is not right on some things or don't remember just help with a quiet mouth. By all this your married life if you choose will be a fulfilled one.

    Knights never argue knights make their women proud and want them. Make sure you have everything ready. I mean like saving for a 6 month rainy day and then increase that as much as you can as time goes on. Buy a house cash small to start and then bigger when you decide and ready to have a child so the child can stay in one community for their whole school life and a place to come home always during Holidays and for you to plant your plants and watch them grow and to grow old in, make sure to pay cash or go smaller if needed or just wait on the child/bigger home, peace is most important. Pay that car cash, used or new. Pay the vacation cash and have your retirement ready, remember to diversified in many ways not just many stocks but many ways. NOW if you want to use some credit cards because of perks then make sure to place that cash aside in the bank account so when the statement comes cash is already waiting ;)

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  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    My advice to you is a few treatment. For you, and your spouse. also, trauma to the mind may reason ones personality to modify. Has a mind specialist clinically determined you with damage for your mind? A CAT experiment or MRI couldn't damage both. do not do some thing rash for your relationship with your spouse and children. Wait until eventually you get some clinical, and psychological help before claiming there's a topic at domicile. Even you said you won't be able to placed a finger on what's incorrect. Get some specialist help. sturdy success and my prayers bypass out to you and your family members.

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    stand up for yourself.

    she needs to learn to agree to disagree not try and change you. I bet you have started giving in to keep the peace. you gave her an inch she is taking a mile.

    you say "lack of freedom " don't isolate yourself just to keep the peace. that wouldn't be ok if you did it. it would be abusive and controlling. so why does she get to dictate you into submission?

    she will also have little to no respect for you if you keep bending. trust me.

    EDIT I should also add that often women have a tendency to harbour underlying resentment about a certain issue. and instead of getting toi the point for whatever reason) the go about punishing you for every little microscopic thing you do.

    if you are fighting about EVERYTHING it usually has nothing to do with what she is picking at. she is just annoyed at you and is "releasing that"

    but since you are not allowed any freedom as you say its probably her just trying to control you. mould you...stand up for yourself

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