Why won't she open up to me?

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My GF and I have been together for a year and our relationship is very stable and loving.  I've never been with someone that I feel so "in tune" with.  We rarely argue and everything is great EXCEPT she will not open up to me.  She is very strong willed and sometimes comes off as insensitive.  Me on the other hand am a sap and a romantic and I will pour my heart out to her.  I have talked to her about this because it bothers me and she says "I'm not going to open up because that means I'm vulnerable."  I can understand this because she has been so hurt in the past, BUT we have been together a year and she knows she can trust me.  I have never given her reason not to.  I do so much for her and make it a point to let her know each day how much I appreciate and love her.  Am I beating a dead horse here?  Can I "make" her open up to me?  Her distance is starting to push me away.  Advice?

Bianca · Accepted Answer

Trying to make her open up to you will only make things worse, she has those defences there for a reason and you will only push her away. IF she opens up to you it will happen when she is ready and doesnt feel the need to protect herself.

Anonymous · Answer

U said it that she has been hurt in the past and moreso u check ur self character u may be lovly to her, u may be doing what u think u can do best but she may see one  atitude of those that hurt her in u. Never mind u can jst ask her this (what can i do to u that will make u not to forgive in life or what can i do wrong that can make u to we ar through) then u will know where to adjust yourself,with that if she sees that she has begin to see changes then she may open up to u.

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