Anyone else notice that when it comes to marriage?

Is the commitment to their marriage located in a circle of metal and stones about their finger? Or is it within their minds and hearts....

It is not wearing the ring that cements fidelity and commitment....it's the Person......all a ring is, is a symbol. The symbol does NOT a commitment make.....

When my PsA swells my fingers I can wear no rings at all...are you suggesting that during those times I am less committed to my marriage and husband?....sounds rather silly if you ask me.....

You are mixing up the choice of wearing a wedding ring or not with the mindset that some folks have that marriage is just a 'piece of paper'....the two are NOT related, believe me.

Part of the reason for this is that there is less need to commit, at least from the standpoint of conforming to cultural customs. There is no longer a stigma about out-of-wedlock births, and women have advanced in the workforce to the point that it is possible for a woman to be self-supporting. Even fifty or sixty years ago, that wouldn't have been true.

When my parents were married in 1946, the usual custom for upper-middle-class girls was to get a college education and then get married. The usual custom for working-class girls (like my mom) was to finish high school and then get married. And that was it.

Also, the worth and interests of the individual are held to be more paramount today than they were back then. People are less willing to stay in an unhappy marriage to avoid scandal or for the sake of the children.

Marriage rates have been on the decline for the past few years and people are also waiting longer to get married now. So, it's not just your imagination.

EDIT: I agree completely with what Vibiana said about out-of-wedlock births no longer having a stigma and women becoming more independent contributing as well. I'd also add to that that cohabitating without being married is no longer seen in as negative a light as it used to be.

just wearing a ring shows commitment?

so a girl in our class who wears the ring her boyfriend gave him is so commited to him,eh?but only God knows how many boys she flirts with in a day!

Dear only a ring doesn't show love and commitment.Love has to be in your hearts and minds,it has to be a part of your soul and your everything.

if I'm right you live in Canada,right?and in canada common-law marriage is recognized.so if you say some live up to ten years together,they are common law married and they ARE committed.no person can leave a common law marriage at any time they want.they also have commitments to their marriage and they also have the same rights as a formally married couple.

don't forget LOVE BRINGS COMMITMENT.

so this is love that makes people commited and loyal to each other not a ring.

Well, one no longer has ro be married, as a woman, to be substantiated in society. Women are realizing that they can obtain professional positions and don't need a man to have an identity. The reason ro marry now is for having children, tax benefits, the right to visit in a hospital, the right ro choose how to dispose of the dead body, the right to make funeral arrangements, collect social security benefits, sponsor your spouse through immigration, etc etc etc etc etc. It is for these civil rights that people get married, and not to earn a place in society as someone's wife.

I think many by pass a ring if they need the money for important things. I know many men who work in dangerous jobs where their not allowed to wear their rings. Many oil field workers have missing fingers.

Sure things have changed and we all have to learn to roll with it

1 - People wait longer to get married

2 - Divorce rates are higher than ever

3 - Life isnt about marriage...what does it matter to you?