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me and my partner have to move away to get married and my mom is very upset.?

we live in North Dakota that offers NOTHING for gay couples, not even domestic partnership. i want to get married and REFUSE to NOT be able to while my sister and her husband can. we have a closer relationship than they do and it's JUST AS VALID.

now we have to move to Iowa to get married, while my sister gets to live here.

the issue is i'm VERY close to my mother and my sister isn't but i can't live in a state where i can't get married, so are going to move to IOWA.

my mom is very upset that i'm moving, and if it wasn't for this i'd stay right here in ND. How should i break the news to my mom that i have to move? she's going to be very upset since i'm the one that's closes to her.

Update:

johnny K: they seem to be accomadating for straight people. what you mean is that some states violate the constitution for some of thier citizens.

Update 2:

lucy: my lifestyle DOES fit into marriage. also being born with a different trait isn't a 'lifestyle'.

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  • 9 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    I wish you and your spouse all the best. I don't understand why some people seem to think the world will end if two gay people can get legally married.

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    you're one real gem of a guy. any such tremendous number of adult males in this international could both aspect with mom, or would not get in contact in any respect. you probably did the right aspect by protecting your spouse and sticking by her aspect even antagonistic for your own mom, it really is what a husband is meant to do. Your mom is contained in the incorrect. She has stated some terrible, terrible issues, and that i applaud your spouse for having the classification to you're able to be the bigger man or woman for therefore long as she could, then finally digging her heels in and protecting herself at the same time as issues went too a procedures. She's a reliable woman to objective this, because the way she has been attacked over the years is amazingly unfair. shop sticking by your spouse, and allow circulate of the resentment. i will purely imagine how not effortless that is not having a reliable relationship which includes your mom anymore, yet easily, this may quite have handed off no count number number who you married. Your mom could be a touch overly invested in you, as often times occurs, particular with moms who typically parented and did no longer have a lot of a existence outside of that. moms could come across a thanks to allow their adult children circulate. you've made reliable possibilities in existence and characteristic a awesome family individuals, and your mom has no reason to disapprove. Her attitude is her personal loss.

  • 9 years ago

    As a Conservative I think it's sad that your State doesn't recognize Individuals freedom. But this is why it is so important that States hold More Power than the Federal Government.

    If the Federal Government spoke for all States and made it illegal. It would be illegal everywhere. At least having it be a State issue people like you can vote with you feet by moving.

    It sucks you have to move. But if enough people start to move out of State, they would be forced to change their ways.

    Congrats on your up coming Marriage!.........Good luck. Maybe your State will see the light and legalize freedom soon......

  • Misty
    Lv 5
    9 years ago

    There are millions of people in this country (not just gays) whose lifestyle does not fit into the tradition of marriage, and they simply choose not to partake. Why do you think you are entitled to change a tradition when others who cant get married dont. You sound like a spoiled brat. Your entitlement issues are keeping you from your mother.

    ADD: Not if your lifestyle is homosexuality. That is not part of the tradition of marriage

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  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    Gay marriage has the same level of "validity" as marrying your dog. So until you're willing to stand up and say that somebody should be able to marry Fido.. you're nothing more than a hypocrite.

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    Gay marriage is NOT legitimate.It is a perversion which causes AIDS.Then normal people have to to pay for treating a disease which you brought on your self by the way you choose to live.You are a self pitying troll who wants every one else to accommodate your illness

  • 9 years ago

    If you don't want to upset your mother, don't tell her directly what you're going to do. Ask her opinion that if she were in the same situation, what would she do? Try to get her to suggest that it's better for you to move in order to get married. Can't you come back to ND after you got married in Iowa? If not, you have to make a decision. You can always come and go and see your mom ...

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    Can't you just go get married in Iowa and then go back to live in N.D.?

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    You are a typical liberal looking for sympathy for a special cause. I offer pity, instead.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    9 years ago

    A little ANGRY are you about this? I understand and I agree that it sucks for gay couples and is completely unfair so don't think I'm mocking you. Seems to me that if you're that close to your mom then she will understand. Plus, that's what Skype and all that jazz is for.

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