Major life decision! please help!!!!?

Question

ok here is my problem. I am almost 40 and i really want to have my own family and kids. I have been very unlucky with women over the last 4 years and i am so so tired. This year i have met 2 really great girls that showed interest in me. The first one, Anna, is my first choice. She is really beautiful and nice but unfortunately we had a misunderstanding 3 months ago and i have managed to hurt her horribly! i am not a bad person but i messed up badly! I tried to mend things up but she did not give me the chance though lately i do see some positive signals from her behavior. A bit by bit she seems to be opening up to me. The second girl Mary is really sweet and nice, average looking, and really after me! She is into me totally ready to go out any minute i ask. She is totally decided that she wants a relationship with me. Of course i talked to Anna and she just said that she is still very hurt, totally confused and she doesn't know when she will be over this if ever. She is willing to try very very slowly as friends first. Now Mary wants a date anytime. 
What do i do ? Wait for Anna and loose Mary ? I had so much bad luck i don't want to be left alone again and Mary is so sure....Then Anna, i like her more, but i admit i was a real jerk and have seriously damaged her view of me. Now what??

Delores Sanbourne · Accepted Answer

You sound really mature for 40! 

That aside, choose Mary, she will treat you better.

Cartman · Answer

I want to know what you did to Anna hahaha.  This is a tricky situation, I dont think you can tell Anna about Mary or she will just hold that against you as well. All you can do it see Mary and see if feelings develope and well, just be friends with Anna on the side until she figures out what she wants.

Dr. Joseph · Answer

To answer your question directly, go with the one who is ready to accept you and have some positive regard for you. The first one had good time with you but you messed up, you say. You also say you are unlucky with women all these years. I am not sure whether it is unlucky phenomenon or there is some serious problem with your relationship with women in general, and particularly women with close interactions. You may have to work on your social and relationship skills before you go with any one with the idea of love and more.

l8tr g8tr · Answer

You are playing both these women.  You are 40.  Man up.  Make up your mind and get it done...

"Misunderstanding" like - oh, Anna, I like you but I am keeping my options open and fvcking around with Mary on the side...

Yeah, like she was supposed to support that?

Seriously - pick one and do what you gotta do.

Smarty · Answer

I think you should go with Mary and don't make all the mistakes you have made in the past with her.  Treat her well and have a good life with her and not end up alone the rest of your life.

Anonymous · Answer

" A bird in the hand _____ "

EDIT: Re your additional details 
All the more reason to go with Mary . No baggage , no hard feelings .

burnham · Answer

Ya, of direction. all of us do issues we remorseful approximately. i think of it quite is area of existence. we attempt to study from those issues. I easily remorseful approximately some important existence judgements. yet having stated that our existence judgements make us who we are and a few say each and everything occurs for a reason. So... it quite is debatable. :)

simple1711 · Answer

if u like anna it should be anna

Anonymous · Answer

pick the one wit the tightest *** yo

Major life decision! please help!!!!?

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