Falling for a guy with a girlfriend?

I totally know what you mean, I have a situation similar. My best friend is a boy and he is a little older than me too! He's not dating the girl he likes but he does like her extremely a lot and always is talking about her and how much he wants to get all over her. It's crazy and annoying, all though I have a ton of experience with theatre and can act like it doesn't get to me. But inside it does.

I think it's really sweet that he can trust you and confide in you so much like he does and I can tell because like in that text it says something that he probably wouldn't text people he didn't trust a ton. It's really okay that he makes you feel special and flirts with you even though he has a girlfriend. He can't, like, hate you because he's taken. You're his best friend, that's a huge deal to a person. I think you shouldn't come between them because it could wreck your friendship. I would choose to watch their interactions and see how close they seem. If it's a little weird, like if he seems closer with you, maybe ask him about his relationship and see what he says. Be cool, don't be different than you usually are, because then he'll get confused. Maybe they'll just break up on their own and you can have your chance. But if you don't see that happening, then come right out and tell him how you feel and let him know you don't want to ruin your friendship. Maybe he'll end up saying he feels the same. But don't let it be obvious that he breaks up with his current girlfriend for you, because then she'll be your new enemy. You don't want that.

If you don't want to make a new issue, I'd say look for a boyfriend elsewhere. It's not so hard. You could double-date with your best friend and his girl. I learned to get over how I felt with my guy friend because I got involved in other activities and met other guys. It seemed easy to me to learn that he wouldn't like me as more than a best friend and eventually accept it. It took two years but I'm so much better off not being obsessed about him.

I hope I helped, at least a little teensy bit!

Good luck!(:

Then I would suggest to not get involved in his flirting - even if it makes you feel good - because realize the consequences: If you continue accepting his flirting, his girlfriend might find out and conflict could happen.

You said it yourself: he shouldn't be flirting with you - so I suggest to just be cool and do not flirt back because if you do - you are only fueling the flirtation between you guys more.

Hope it helps.

don't flirt back.