Please no haters or trolls...i don't know what to do from here... :(?

Being drunk is no excuse; but it's also ignorant to get your panties in a twist over it. Drunk or sober you're not perfect.

They oviously can no longer get a existence as a results of fact they are haters...they are haters as a results of fact they are in a position to't get a existence. meaning that they are in a position to't rather get on with their existence while they are in simple terms hating out of jelousy. This has a tendency to be between the flaws that makes them the way they are. Haters will constantly hate people who're better than they are consequently bobbing up Hate. a splash complicated? nicely i desire I defined the skill of Hate!

Have you ever seen people say the wrong word and swear blind they didn't say it? It's a real phenomenon, in case you haven't seen it happen. People are thinking one thing and a part of their brain hijacks their mouth and the wrong word comes out. Because they were thinking the other thing they neither hear what they said nor believe it when told. It's happened to me, and only because I've seen it happen to others was I prepared to believe it was possible that I'd said the wrong thing.

You've accidentally been too hard on her. I understand it was a shock for you, but it was a worse one for her when you left and haven't been in touch since. She had him in her head because she'd just seen him, and she might have been feeling that stupid unreasonable guilt you feel when you bump into your ex with your new love. Also, she was badly treated by him and may still be scared of him. Lots of reasons for him to be present in her mind. It doesn't mean she was thinking about him AT ALL.

He was in her head, but it wasn't by her choice. You'll understand when you see that wrong word thing happen again, or when it happens to you. I hope you can reassure her because you'll feel bad later if you take this too seriously. She's already traumatised, and you're not jealous of him, anyway.

What to do? Text her you that you were wrong and you're coming straight over. Go see her and make up. What else? Can you really imagine never seeing this lovely girl anymore because, drunk and having just seen her horrible ex, his name came out by accident instead of yours? Come on!

You're making too much of this, if it happened a lot I would feel the same way but as you said, she was really drunk and you did run in to her ex that day. It is ok to be miffed and ok to let her know it, now you have made your point, answer her text, or better yet, call her.

it sounds like at long last you have found your soul mate,why spoil it over a little bit of male ego that is slightly dented she sounds like she was very drunk and really dnt remember the incident,after all she was with him for a long time 4 years is a long time so you really cant blame her ,i am on my second marriage well over 20 years now and on odd occasions i have called the present wife by the name of the first wifes name it is not funny it can cause tremendous rows believe me give her a call and tell her you will never mention the subject ever again and keep to your word even if you have terrifict rows in the future ok.

I'm sure she didn't mean it all at. I've been in her shoes, I've been with a controlling guy before. She put up with him for four years, and that's quite a lot of time.

If I was at a carnival and saw my ex, I definitely wouldn't hesitate to go get drunk. Her seeing her ex reminds her of bad memories. And of course, when she was drunk at the apartment, I'm sure she didn't mean anything by that at all. Her being upset and being even more upset thinking about him is what's on her mind, because she doesn't want to re-live those traumatizing events again.

Be there for her, trust me.

It would have killed the mood but she is probably telling the truth. Many girls will see their cheating asshole ex boyfriends but in this case she probably has complex emotional issues (by complex I mean common ones girls get from dating assholes) and she was thinking about him in one way or another. She may or may not have been thinking about him sexually. She probably was. Then again because she was drunk you have no way of knowing.

It's not an ego thing it is stupidity, if she was with him 4 years then the occasional slip of the tongue is going to happen, what chance have you got of a long term relationship if you walk out over something as trivial as that.

she loves you its just her ex probably played mind games with her mentally and physically. sometimes seeing the person who victimised you makes your mind go back to that place it was with them when they were manipulating your mind.. try to stay with her she really loves you .. it was a mentally mistakes she made she didn't mean to.. sometimes the mind can only take but so much then when flash back happens it goes to the painful place from a memory or a person that looks like the one who hurt them..

things will get better for you both just try to keep her mind from it..

Get over it. Do you plan to destroy a relationship you thought was good just because she made a drunken mistake?