How do I tell people about my recent breast cancer diagnosis?

hello, first of all, i'm very sorry about what you have to go through.

i am not experienced in this, but several people around me have been diagnosed with cancer in the past couple of years. i just heard about 2 in the past few days.

i would think that it's best to speak to people you are very close to and maybe send a mail to people who you still want to inform, but are not close to.

i would imagine it might be easier to inform people once you have an idea of your treatment plan as people are likely to ask lots of questions.

if you would like people NOT to ask questions-then say so. in 2 cases recently, someone relatively close to the cancer patient was designated as someone who would be giving information updates. or answering questiongs. in one case one person sent emails to a group occasionally. in another case, a person was designated to give info. though i'm perhaps closer to that person (not very close, but we have a really nice relationship-always truly delighted when we run into one and other) than someone else. this other person said she would be asking the designated person for info soon and would let a few of us know what info she got after she did. i thought that was fine, as i didn't want to overwhelm the other person.

in one case it is the cancer patient's god-daughter, so i am concerned about her feelings-in another case it's more a colleague, but i think someone less deeply close and i feel less concerned.

also-this person would give info like: "she loved your flowers" or "she reads all her messages and you are welcome to write, but she won't be answering" another thought is to say, "you prefer that people don't talk to you about it".

maybe do a bit of talking and processing to see what you want and when you give information to one or more people then communicate that:

maybe you want people not to talk about it. maybe you want to just go on and have normal life and jokes like always. that's up to you. you decide and communicate what you want. maybe you only want to tell a few colleagues and want it to be secret. (this seems quite reasonable-though expect that at times people may forget or slip and try not to be too angry-it's just human)

take good care of yourself. you only have to tell people what you want to. and you can ask for what you want.

my thoughts are with you.

You may not need to share with hardly anyone unless you are comfortable doing so. This doesn't have to be a serious life-changing diagnosis. I had stage 3 at age 37 and it is but a distant memory. I'm out 4 years and you'd never know I had it. I stayed pretty private about it, as it was not necessary to throw myself a pity party. Don't let it take over your life; it is only temporary!

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I was fairly open about it.

My sister went with me to my appointment where I got my results confirming I had cacner, we had already guessed. She then passed on the info to the rest of the family.

I told my daughter and her friends (we lived anly a few doors from the school so they all dropped in all the time).

I rang my ex-husband and other close friends.

I told my boss in person and advised that I was comfortable with others being told and then left it to the office gossips.

I told my husband and adult kids. Everyone else guessed once I lost my hair.

theres no easy way of saying it so i would just sit your loved ones down and tell them the news and tthey shal support you... best of luck to you :)

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