Tired of life and gay.....?

Thirteen can be a tough age for anyone. It does all get better though. I know 18 or 19, when you can leave home and discover a whole new world seems like forever away. Five years is more than a third of the entire time you've been alive, but the time does pass and you will get there. Honestly it doesn't seem like that long when looking back.So much will change for you. For one, you will change. You will be bigger and stronger and more mature. You will have experienced many more things. So will all the people around you. Just a few years makes you into whole different people. Some of them will still be awful though.When you leave home you can go and find such accepting people it is unbelievable. Once you make them your people you will feel much different. All that stuff that feels bad about being gay melts away. You can reach a point where it just seems weird for anyone to say homophobic things. You will still hear them, but it won't make you feel bad about yourself. You will find the love that you need.Of course you've got a few years to deal with first. The best advice I can offer you for now is to keep yourself busy. having things to do can keep your mind occupied and gives you much less time to sit and feel bad about things. Also, learning and pursuing new hobbies will help you to be a more rounded person which will contribute to success later in life. It will make you more interesting and lead to certain people liking you more, probably some new friends. And it will give you something to feel good about. When your done with high school a great opportunity is to go to college, but college is academically hard, so prepare yourself. Learn now. Why don't you do some reading about other cultures and whatnot. YOu can escape through books for a short period, and then someday with your knowledge you can experience some of this stuff for real. Make sure to keep getting out and doing things though. An active lifestyle is the healthy type. In fact I was just reading a web page about doing things to prevent developing dementia when you get old, and their tips are good advice for how everybody should live regardless of worry of dementia. I will post a link to that page.One thing many young people don't think much about it how your physical health affects your mental health. Eating well can make you happier. Trust me it really plays a major role. And exercising releases endorphins, and makes you feel physically better which in turn enhances your mood. One of the things you should put some effort into learning about that will help you your whole life is nutrition. You could even make cooking healthy meals a new hobby. An easy resource for some tips on that is right here in yahoo answers under the vegan and vegetarian section. Weather you want to be a vegetarian or not, there is great info there on healthy and tasty ways to get proper nutrients.Another thing is your strong desire for a boyfriend. I tell everyone this because it is so true. The fact is that being closeted feels really bad. Hearing all that negative stuff about homosexuality feels really bad. You just want the opposite of all of that, and your subconscious tells you that having a boyfriend would be the opposite. It is extremely common to have obsessive desire for a boyfriend when one is trying to cope with being gay. Once you feel more secure with yourself you will still want a healthy social life which includes dating, but you will probably not feel so desperate for a boyfriend. What you need is love, acceptance, and the feeling of being honest and genuine. I'm sure you imagine private times with your boyfriend, and cuddling, and sharing your thoughts, and doing all sorts of things together. You will get that someday, but what you really need now is to feel better about yourself. They say love yourself first and then others can love you, and it is so true. Remember all the things you have ever liked about yourself and realize that they are still true. Don't let the hard stage you are going through now cloud that. Be yourself regardless of what others say. Know that when people put others down what they are really doing is trying to make themselves feel bigger by making others feel and look smaller. To those who realize this it is clear that the people putting others down are really just making themselves smaller. Rise above that and you automatically are bigger and better. Being yourself and being a nice person are what are really cool in life and people will come to see that. You listen to your friends problems because you are a thoughtful person. I know that can get tiring, but don't forget how valuable you are to them. Don't let them use you either though.

I'm 15 i went through the same when i was 13. i just kept pushing through and each day things get better and better. im not going to say everything is "perfect" no but its better. as for the not knowing if you are gay or bi i font really know myself so i can really give you advice in that. for me what worked was that i kept saying no and went out with a lot of girls to hush people up, if there is this guy you like just become close friends with them and try and go from there. and get a real close friend that you can talk to. and you'll be fine. nobody will know anything is wrong if you act like everything is alright.

im probably not much help but im trying

Hey Damien,

Many people have to gone through and are going though exactly what you are now. It's always important to remember that there are people that care about you, and you should NEVER feel bed for who you are as a person. All those other who cut themselves for attention are pathetic, and you should not have to put up with them. Being closeted is very difficult, and almost everyone has a tough time with it, and with bullying and abuse that you have to go through, it makes it almost impossible. It's always important to remember that your not alone in your fight, and thousands of others are feeling exactly how you are. In the mean time, the best thing you can do is find a hobby or somebody to talk to, and be yourself. I know its hard, but if you hang in there long enough, you can escape and find a better life, and find somebody to love. If you want somebody to talk to, you can always email me, I don't mind talking to people, I'm sixteen and gay also. Remember, don't give up and that it gets better! There are people that care about you, and being yourself is always good. Hope this helped - Baron

You are 13, so you are still learning about yourself. It takes a whole lot of time to do so, but when you do and accept who you are, it becomes much easier and what people say about you does not matter much because you know the truth from a lie. You have to face these problems head on, so you will know what you are capable of. If you are gay, straight or bi, you have to be you whether people accept you or not or else you will live a life of lies and deception in which you will have many regrets. You need to also steer clear of friends who can't/won't help you when you need them. Those ones you spoke of are a negative influence, what they do does not solve their problems, nor yours. What you need is a confidante, someone who is or has been in your shoes who will be able to guide you. You won't find one sleeping in your room. Call a local lgbt office and see if they can help.

im 15 went through the same thing i know its hard but eventually people stopped asking and things went away i mean ur still in middle school with immature kids things will get better if u ever need to talk u can talk to me !:)

try going to your local lgbt center or lgbt youth center. there is a lot of resources for help. sometimes they can even fond you a safe place to stay. you'll also meet a lot of people that will support you and befriend you and love you.