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? asked in Family & RelationshipsMarriage & Divorce · 9 years ago

What do you when you're in an un-happy relationship?

Goodness knows that I love him but he has no ambition but likes to moan and groan about every little thing. I try to encourage him and be understanding and I know he probably suffers from depression, but so do I. He's a kind person but he's selfish at the same time if that makes sense. I wouldn't mind all that but we have a 2 year old together and I value family. He's distant as a father even though I know he loves our son to bits. I'm tired of trying extra hard to be extra cheery every day, because I'll be damned if our son suffers the effects of depression from both his parents, but it's always ALL about him. He keeps saying that when our money worries are gone, in other words when I'm done with school and get an awesome job, things will be better but I just don't know anymore. Not a lot of people to associate with where I live so I guess I'm just ranting on here. Feel welcome to leave your 2 cents if you'd like!!

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  • Anonymous
    9 years ago
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    Don't focus on your relationship Get out and live life. Take a class, get busy and stay busy. If your happy and make yourself happy then no person can ruin it for you. In other words. You probably can't change him so be a good mom and a good friend and start doing what you want. Live.

  • ?
    9 years ago

    Work on making it better. My husband suffers from depression too and probably should be medicated and I know that is not easy to deal with. I can relate alot of what you say but at the same time I know he has a disease and does not always realize when he is acting that way. Unfortunately, it is going to be up to you to help change some things and do it gradually. Designate one family night per week and another for just you and him. Also, start analyzing his depression behaviors so you know when he is down, up and even in that pissed off mood. It will help you know the right times to talk, do family night and spend time focusing on each other. I would also recommend that he go to counseling for himself and then couples counseling. Also, money is not going to solve these problems (more money just means buying more senseless things). What is going to help is changes and a better attitude from both of you.

  • makeloans2
    Lv 7
    9 years ago

    You and your husband should both talk to your doctor and see about getting on medication for depression. It can really help. Until that "cloud" is lifted, it will be hard for you both to see things in a positive light.

  • Beto N
    Lv 5
    9 years ago

    Well tell him what you want and hear him out. If it sounds good stay. but remember dont let anyone bring you down. You have a kid you want to better your life and if leaving him will make you succeed then be it.

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  • F. Carmen Cardona
    9 years ago

    Walk out!

  • opinionated
    Lv 7
    9 years ago

    a BF is no reason to stay and be unhappy

    you date to see if you get along,you are not,so,you leave

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