How to say no to needy neighbors?

It may sound weird for me to says this, but, that guilty feeling is actually a good thing. By the way you speak, you sound like a good person- giving and helpful. I understand that u may feel unappreciated when you don't receive a "thank you" or even a couple of extra dollars to help out. But Trust me, Your good deeds will come back to you. I would recommend that you speak with your neighbor about the drop-off time. Give the, specific days and times where the children can be dropped off. Pray about the situation. If it begins to become to much of a burden I would simply ask the neighbors if they could contribute. You could always begin babysitting and setting a very reasonable payment plan since they are on disability. Talk with them about the daughter's behavior and see if there is anything that calms her in addition to the medicine such as favorite games or movies. I know that you may not feel comfortable giving another child meds, but I'm sure she will be fine. Medicine is very important. I am positive that you are a blessing to this family, even though they show little respect.

If I was you I would just go over to your neighbors and explain what you have just written. The girl has nearly hurt herself and you don't want to be responsible if something happens, your husband works hard but it is two expensive to feed 5 kids when you only have 3, it feels wrong to give medication to a child that isn't your own etc.Maybe even mention that they don't really appreciate how hard it is for you as they don't say thank you. Then say something about how you understand how hard it is for them and your still happy to help out just not everyday. Then say you are happy to have the kids once or twice a week, (or however often your able to have them) and maybe say I can have them Wednesday and Thursday (or whatever day or days)

Good luck :)

Just be straight and say something like , I'm sorry but I can no longer watch your children. At first I thought it would be doable but yours are taking too much time away from mine and I will never allow that to happen". At that point hand them the list of county services that are available. They will come back eventually but do not give in even once. Oh, and by the way, doing this does not make you a bad person. Only a good Mommy.

Sweetie, these are Sponges you are dealing with. Once a sponge, always a sponge. They will suck from the government, society, and even YOU, to get what they want, when they want it, and they will abuse the privileges you gave them. I am sorry to tell you that there is no way to handle this without them, making you look like the bad guy in this. You cannot support their kids while raising your own, and if you feel that you CAN take it on, let them know that you are "short on cash this month" and if they want to leave the kids with you, they will need to chip in for groceries. And have a specified amount already in mind, or otherwise they will offer you a very small percentage of what you actually deserve. Best of luck!

have you ever informed her that her calls are waking you up? If not, she would not comprehend she is bothering you. if so, has she persevered to call you? If someone called me too early i'd right now enable them comprehend they woke me up and tell them now to not call previously XYZ time. In her case, i imagine i'd turn my ringer off until eventually i replaced into wakeful and then verify to work out who's searching previously I %. up the phone. If she knocks and also you do not want he company, do not answer the door or tell her you're busy and also you may't draw close out in the present day. i imagine you would possibly want to truly agency with her because obviously she wouldn't have the same values and it really is a one-sided friendship. Do you've a husband who can run some interference for you? If not, both arise with excuses until eventually she receives the hint or be blunt.

Just don't answer and ignore but before that you need to tell them that maybe your busy doing stuff with your kids during those hours and you wanna hang with friends and that you don't have "time"

hm.....next time they come to you, say politely that you're no longer able to help them..

and that you're very sorry....