How do I get my husband back, my life is ruined, and it's my fault?

I think you are a really confused person. For you to state that you love him, he is your soul mate and that you cannot live without him is NOT the feelings of one who cheats on her husband.

I am sorry, but, what you think you think is not how you act like you act. Wives in love who are committed do not cheat on their husbands.

He cannot trust you any more because you are untrustworthy. You broke your wedding vows and did not forsake all others. He is devastated, in shock and terribly hurt.

Stop the drama of crying and forcing him to make promises to contact you. Leave him the hell alone. Here you are, as usual, only thinking of yourself and your "ruined" life.

What the hell do you think you just did to HIS life? YOU RUINED HIS LIFE. Selfish girl.

Now, let him be and wait for his next move. Leave him alone, he needs to regroup after you just ruined his life.

What you haven't told us is why you slept with a guy from work

If your marriage was strong, and you really loved your husband

then this would never have happened

Now you need to take things slowly, try and arrange to at least meet up with your husband

Tell him how sorry you are, maybe explain to him WHY you did what he did

and hope that maybe he can begin to trust you again

Sadly, he may not be able to, but that's something you will have to live with

You obviously realise you have made a huge mistake and your heartbroken from this mistake. He knows you are sorry but you need to give him space to think, hes upset aswell. try not to contact him in any way.

you also need space to think about the whole situation. maybe contact him in a week or two, ask if you could talk and you dont want the marriage to end like this.

i hope this works out for you. everyone makes mistakes

Your doing all you can. I would suggest that you don't call or try to contact him every hour of every day, he might just need space. If you do manage to get in contact with him tell him how you feel, that you still love him and you will give him space if he needs it. Ask him to contact you when his head is clear to discuss whats gone on and what is going to happen in the nearer future. Im sorry about whats happen and I wish you the best, hope I helped.

Get help to find out why you did what you did and to make sure it does not happen again. Invite your husband to join you.

Get a new job. You will not be able to resolve this with you seeing the other man every day.

Keep trying.

no doubt your hubby will have in his mind a simple fact that once a cheater always a cheater. the issue is a matter of trust now and since your hubby feels betrayed , don't be surprised if you find divorce papers coming through the post.

I don't know.