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i have no direction or drive, what do i do?
i grew up a little poor white kid from the trailor park with a loving mother that died from breast cancer when i was young and a father who was physically and mentally abusive, and he worshiped money. now that i'm a married thirty something man with a wife (happily married) i just feel like i'm missing a crucial part of myself by holding a job that does not appreciate me or anything i do. i make a very meager wage with mild responsibilities. i want to make more money and be a more crucial part of a team but i'm so unmotivated to do anything that it's insane. i have so many different passions that it is hard to do only one thing. i paint, play and create music, i'm learning to tattoo, read all different kinds of books and am even starting to write a couple of my own. i love to draw but can't seem to stick with anything that isn't making me money and it is at least a two year apprenticeship with a tattoo master to even get a license of my own. and their is no way i can afford my house without my current job. i've not had a parent since i was 19 to ask for direction. my wife will support any decision i make. i'm willing to do alot to make a life for myself but i cannot move. it's the ONLY thing my wife has asked of me in our marriage. and i will respect her by giving her that. little money, little means, no college education. any and all SERIOUS answers will be appreciated. i know this was a long read and i thank you for your time reading it. peace.
6 Answers
- Anonymous9 years ago
You shouldn't drop out of your job before having another, otherwise you'll be bankrupt in little time. But you should, yes, move on. You said you've been writing some books of your own, ever thought of trying to get any of them published? You could make some money with it and it could become an actual way for you to make your living. Maybe you should try to sell some of you paintings, too. No better way of knowing whether or not you're good at it and if it is worth pursuing. Try the stuff you could most easily try first, and if that doesn't work, try to manage. Follow your dreams.
- AdairLv 69 years ago
There could be many reasons for this. You may not have been given the tools for success growing up and it takes awhile to realize that let alone acquire them for yourself. You may have depression and/or ADD- many creative people do. You may not have enough testosterone to drive you. Test for the ailments first. Get yourself a better job with higher pay. Easy said, I know. You may not like the new job either but it can offer some relief. Also, know that you don't have to do everything at once but you can do several things at once on many levels. Prioritize. Focus on some while allowing other things to be done casually for now. Those back burner things can be dealt with to get a break from those things you're focused on. You'll have a variety of activity which is good, and everything will move forward. In my community, a lot of successful people do many things. Its basically a characteristic of successful people. Take your time. Pace yourself. If you have to take frequent breaks or long ones, h-e-l-l take them. Good luck.
- 9 years ago
If you still have "passions", hang in there because you still have drive. When you have NO passions, you have NO drive. Is it possible you are in the habit of being lazy or unproductive, or do you have an internal feel of completing something due to fear of failure? I also am left to wonder this: You mention money tends to drive you as did your father; maybe counseling or just talking things through in details to see all sides and possibilities with someone responsible or reasonable if you cannot afford professional help. When my drive gets low...I give a little energy or time to animals by volunteering to walk them at a local rescue. It increases my energy, self esteem, and motivates me to live a better life. Maybe some form of "volunteering" will help you. ~ Have you considered that your spirit needs feeding? ~ As in there are so many ways to add spark to life. GIVING works for so many people. It is free to try.
- 9 years ago
Live life with no regrets and take risks which are not always calculated
