It's not a good sign to feel lonely when your married...what would you do?

With all the time you are spending with the kids ( home schooling) I would bet he feels left out. Good for you for home schooling! Children need personal attention. I would try to do more family outings( picnics something he likes fishing???) Also sit down and tell him how you feel in a nice way.

Tell him you are going to try to lost 10 pounds( whatever amount of pounds you decide) but you would like his support.I sounds like you are depressed because of the extra weight. Cut out any sugar( can lose 10 pounds just by doing this) Start with light exercise ( jumping jacks, etc for 10 minutes 4 times a week etc. with walking around in between. then build up to 20 minutes adding other things running in place, dancing with the kids, etc. You can do this when the kids nap or even have them do it with you. Your depression will subside and you will feel so much better.

Also whatever you do never treat your husband as a child. Always see him as a leader of the family never think of him as a child.

EDIT: Try to get involved with your local home school support group. my cousin's wife home schools their children and it has been a lifesaver for her! they have outings you can go on etc. Even Mom's night out activities!

You wouldn't think that just 2 hours a day( I know I was shocked to find out that is the average time spent teaching on k-6 grade). that just two hours a day teaching children would make such a difference in their lives but it does! My cousin's children went from brat's to the sweetest kids imaginable. They love spending time with their Mother and she loves it too. Which I am sure you do too!

I remember being home with the kids all day. We were renovating our home as well (big renovations, not just decorating) so the house was always a mess.

You must make changes in order for things to change. He can't do this, you must. I have some ideas, but it's your life so you must be creative about the changes.

I would make the chores part of homeschooling and involve the kids. Do a little bit each day, make a chart of what gets done each day and give them each a job (age appropriate). It won't be long that they will grow and be able to do more and more. My kids started doing chores at a young age and it is very good for them (and part of what they need to learn). That will help keep the house clean (or at least better).

It was hard for my husband and I to connect sometimes when the kids were little. He became more involved as they grew so when they were young I enticed him to join us. What we did was with the use of strollers, backpacks, and bikes (as the kids grew) we went on family walks and talked and laughed. We also went hiking and to parks and zoos. My husband was much happier playing with the kids outside. This will have an added benefit to getting you some exercise and it will help you get out of the house (which helps with depression).

The other thing we did was I usually fed the kids dinner before he got home and we had dinner together after they were in bed (there was a set bed time and all were in bed before 8pm). We did not have our family time as a meal - we did our family time outside playing (which was much better to be honest). We used dinner as couple time - much needed couple time.

You need to join some sort of home school group in your area. You need friends - you need other women as a support. Plus, the home school groups often have activities for the kids.

As for the homeschooling. This is a biggie. You say he does not support your homeschooling. Did you discuss whether to home school and did he agree? If he did not agree and you did it anyway that is a huge issue. In my opinion to home school both parents must be on the same page. If he agreed and then does not help that is another issue.

Becoming a parent is lovely, but it is also a TON of work and it adds extra stress to a marriage. Try some of the things I suggested and make changes and entice him to join you with the kids. I always felt it was and still is my job to get the family together. My kids are older now (19 and 16) and I still push for family time here and there. I remember when they were young and I remember feeling lonely - I made the changes I suggested to you and things changed.

No, not really. I feel I am complete on my own. I have no desire for cuddling and kissing and romance, really...Those stuff are just the extras in a good relationship. When I find the right person I want it to be a strong emotional bond in which we can share together. I am not impatient and I realize that I will have to wait until it's my time to meet that person. Right now I enjoy the company of my friends and myself, and feel that the most important thing is to achieve my goals. I would like a relationship one day, yes, but it's not a must have thing at this point of my life. Libra Sun, Cancer Moon, Sagittarius Venus

Partially, it sounds like you need an outlet besides being trapped with the same routine day in and day out... something creative, spending time with a friend, walking/hiking outdoors, joining a gym or even a bowling league. You also sound depressed. When we are depressed we do tend to gain or lose weight and we dont follow through with things... our energy level and caring about how our environment looks usually go down the tubes, as well.

If you feel as if you're depressed, you mignt try doing a Yahoo search for Depression Self-help for starters. Loving yourself and Self-compassion are also good things to research. Use the advice which you feel will work for you and work toward improvement daily.

You may be overeating for emotional reasons, and so every time you go to get something to eat, ask yourself if you're hungry or if there is another reason you're over eating. Lots of good information on emotional eating online as well.

I think you've neglected YOU somewhere along the line. Just because we have three children and a husbnad doesn't mean we have to devote every last drop of our energy to them. There has to be a space to take time out for yourself, and to do something that gives you inner contentment on some levels.

I'd suggest forcing yourself to get the house cleaned up -- and then making it a habit to have a morning or afternoon routine of doing a 1/2 hour or so of tidying up so that things don't get out of control again. For example, i always have my coffee in the morning, and afterward, i vacuum and do a bit of clean-up. Before i go to bed, i usually spend 15 or 20 minutes putting t hings away, make sure dishes are done, counters are clean, etc. It doesn't take long, and i wake up to a clean kitchen. This may sound small but it does help.

And as your kids get older, they can take on a few chores to help out each week as well. Helping around home does give them incentive to be more responsible as adults, by the way.

You might find something creative to do with your time also... create mini albums (tutorials on you tube), get into journaling or writing, make jewelry or work on some art... just some suggestions. A creative outlet and completing a project will give you a sense of accomplishment....

I know things will work out well for you, if you put forth the effort to work toward positive change. It does take effort and it does take forcing ourselves sometimes.

If you think you need to see a doctor, then do it.

I'm sending blessings and best wishes, too

I find this to be a very common emotion for sahm's! You're not alone!

I think you need to understand that YOU have put the burdens on yourself! You can send those children off to school. It's easier to KEEP UP with what the educational system is indocrinating into their minds than it is to do it all yourself. Look into their science textbooks. Explain to them why some things are not right and provide them with the tools they need to confront controversial subjects.

You're husband NEEDS TO COME FIRST! You need to take care of his needs before the childrens. It's not a good thing that you would compare him to or call him a child. He's YOUR HUSBAND. He promised to LOVE you and see you through to the end of your days, your children will leave. They NEED the proper training, yes. . .and part of that proper training is SHOWING them the LOVING relationship between THEIR PARENTS!

FOCUS on HIM. He needs you NOW and he'll STILL need you in 20 years, your children WON'T.

Brew his coffee for him. Get up and visit with him before the chaos of the day begins.

Fix his lunch and include a sweet note in there with it.

When he gets home, have a HOT plate of food ready for him.

And for God's sake lady, take 30 minutes to do a quick pick up around the house! You've got children that ARE capable of PICKING up! There's NO excuse as to why they CAN'T help out.

Just prioritize a bit better! That's all! Delegate the responsibilities to your children, making sure they are fit for their ages! If a 2 year old can take a toy out of the toybox, he can SURELY put them back!!!

Best of luck, by God!

Sounds like you're overwhelmed. Understandably so. Depression can easily ensue when you're overburdened and things are falling apart. Depression is a downward spiral. It's affecting your marriage, your health, your friendships, your family dynamics, and your children's education.

Get realistic about what you can handle right now. Staying overburdened will keep you from accomplishing what you and your family needs.

Time for the kids to go to school. Their education is being neglected. Putting them in school will lessen your burden. Also, you taken away your husband's power over his children's education. Give it back.

Exercise. That's a terrific way to stay healthy, relieve stress, and start change. No one can function unless their bodies are taken care of.

Clean the house. Cleaning, organizing, and consolidating are not only good for the house and relationship, but they're good for your psychological well being.

Get couples or individual counseling. Anyone would benefit from a lil therapy.

Get a couple of lovers on the side. The more the merrier. What he doesnt know wont hurt him. Now go have some fun.