going to my best friends still birth?

My advice would be, keep being the beautiful friend you are being at the moment. You sound like a lovely, caring person so just be yourself, you will know at the time what to do and say.

I'm so sorry your friend and yourself have to go through this.

Sending my love and comfort to the universe for you.

xx

You can bring flowers but also, if you have one, bring a camera. The hospital can take photos but it's better to do it yourself when you want to. They will put the child in the morgue until the funeral parlor takes it and the parents can ask the nurses to get the baby when they want to. And they will. I had a stillborn at 40 weeks and it was nice to be able to see him whenever we wanted to. You need the pictures afterwards when the shock starts to wear off.

And don't be scared. It wont take long when they induce because they wont have to be concerned about the baby's heartbeat etc. Mine took 5 hours but that was 40 weeks. All you can do is being her friend, holding her hand etc. This is what most dads finds hard. It's not really anything to do but being there. Just having you there will be comforting.

Now I know this wont be a joyous occasion but you do need to eat after labor and hospital food isn't so great so if you know there is something she likes, bring it. She will have to eat sooner or later so that could be a nice surprise. You are usually served sandwiches afterwards so you can buy nice ones at the bakery or something. Hospital cheese is like rubber. I think it's the same all over the world. Make a picnic basket or something.

Leave the flowers for when she gets back home. Right now what matters is that YOU will be there, not what you bring. In the hospital setting there won't be the time or atmosphere to appreciate flowers.

Just be by her side, hold her hand, encourage her during labour, and hold her when she needs to be held. Also don't try to find the right thing to say, your presence means more than your words. It may not seem much, but it will be invaluable.

I am so sorry to hear that; that is really terrible. I think the best way to make it easier for her is just by being there. If you need to cry; it's okay. Hold her hand, give her a hug, just stand by her side the whole time-- and I'm sure that's just what she needs. You can bring flowers, too.

Is she in hospital, and will be staying for a time after the delivery? Flowers by her bed would be nice then.

All you can do is hold her hand.

I suppose there's some point in appointing a godparent to a child who doesn't exist? Or is it just prolonging the agony?

You might take flowers. But probably the best way to make it easier for her is to just be there the way she wants you to be there.