How to approach someone who is suicidal?

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I had a step sister for about 6 years during high school, we spent a lot of time together and were really close, our parents split up and they moved.
Our parents are on speaking terms and my mom has relayed to me that my ex-stepsister has attempted suicide at least twice now. I know a lot about what that feels like (though she doesn't know that), but we lost contact and I want to send her a message saying she can talk to me. 
My question is how do you start a message like that, 'I hear you're feeling depressed, tell me all about it,' I'm not sure what I'd want to hear but maybe not that as I never had a big sister to turn to.
What would you say, what would you like to hear?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If they are suicidal you can remind them of these contacts. 

www.suicidehotlines.com/
Call 1-800-SUICIDE / 1-800-784-2433; Call 1-800-273-TALK / 1-800-273-8255. 

I am a survivor of a half-hearted suicide attempt and it was religion and fear of hell that stopped me from finishing off the overdose. However, I know now the family hurt it would have caused had I committed suicide and it is scary that I didn't think of that part whatsoever when suicidal.

K-Man · Answer

I would message her and be like " Hey, just wanted to drop by and see how everything's going. Just don't forget, that I'm always here if you want to talk". 
She will read it, and either message you back with a short few word message or she will want to tell you about what she has been going through.
I would want to hear that you would be there for me, no matter what. And that you are still family and a sister to her, even though your parents have split. 
Just don't pressure her into talking to you. She will talk to you, if she wants. Just let her come to you.
:)

Anonymous · Answer

i would call and just chat but then start saying how you heard she has been feeling a little down lately and want to know if you can do anything to help. let her know you are there for her if she needs something. dont try to pry if she doesnt want to share anything with you. maybe after that just text or call to check up on her every once in a while. keep in touch with her

scrappy · Answer

trying telling her that even though you cant feel her pain you can hear her cries for help and that you are there for her dont get me wrong i am no psychologist but just tell her that you are there for her

rose · Answer

if you don't want to hear, don't bother. your no help to her

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