My boyfriend lied to me and now I'm hurt?

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So I started dating my boyfriend on May 4th of this year. He supposedly had quit smoking around the end of April, and told me several times about how he had weaned himself off of it and blah blah blah. Well, then last night I said that I felt like he wasn't always honest with me and then he told me that he really didn't quit smoking until the end of June... He told me that I worried so much when I knew he was smoking (we had been really good friends before we started dating) and that he didn't want me to worry. So.... really pissing me off and hurting me is sooo much better than me being worried, right? And then on top of it my best friend knew about it. I guess I can't hold her accountable because she only heard it from her boyfriend who is best friends with my boyfriend. But honestly would you have lied to me about this? Should my friend have told me even she didn't witness it, or hear it straight from my boyfriend?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If he did quit then don't worry about it. It is very hard to quit and he was afraid you might be disappointed in him if you found out he was still smoking or be pushy. Just be happy that he came clean right away and that he quit a very hard habit to quit. Just tell him that you are very happy that he quit and that you are hurt that he felt he needed to lie.

Anonymous · Answer

This is such a small issue sweety. He didn't want to disappoint you so he didn't tell you. it's charming in a way. Let it go. It's small potatoes and he did quit. Just tell him to be more honest with you in the future. If you give him a hard time over this or hold a grudge he'll be less inclined to be honest in the future. 

And yiour GF was minding her own business, as she should. Telling you would only upset you and this is such a small issue. Give your GF and BF a hug and LET IT GO. Life is too short to spend time worrying over small issues.

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My boyfriend lied to me and now I'm hurt?

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