Yahoo Answers is shutting down on May 4th, 2021 (Eastern Time) and beginning April 20th, 2021 (Eastern Time) the Yahoo Answers website will be in read-only mode. There will be no changes to other Yahoo properties or services, or your Yahoo account. You can find more information about the Yahoo Answers shutdown and how to download your data on this help page.

DH
Lv 5

I'm not attracted to him anymore but I'm terrified of breaking it off?

I have been with my boyfriend for three years and he is so caring and affectionate and just lovely in general! But I'm just not attracted to the poor guy anymore :/ we never have really had that 'spark' in the first place and I never feel like having sex with him. But our lives are so intertwined I know breaking up will be absolutely horrendous. But we're just not getting on the way we used too and I'm worried if we stay together it will ruin our friendship - what should I do? Should I just hope this is some kind of rough patch or should I end it with the lovely guy who I could kick myself for not being attracted to?! Help!!

3 Answers

Relevance
  • 9 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    try spending time with him, and figure out what is bothering you about him, imagine your life without him, whats is like? are you happy? what would you do?

    be honest, and do what makes you happy. don't stay with him for other people. Its your life, and life is very short! live it the way you want with the people you want!

    people change and thats ok <3333

    good luck

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    I'd say you're going through bit of a crisis in that he's not in your interest anymore despite being loving to you. You should never be terrified of breaking it off, but rather, you should consider your options first before deciding to break up with him. For instance, you can actually talk to him about this. If he's as caring and lovely as you say he is, then he'll try to live up to the new expectations you set before him. If he doesn't, then your 'end the relationship' will be valid at that point.

    Friendship and relationships can never be completely intertwined again if one has been in a relationship with another which simply reverted back friendship. Sure, you'll be nice and all, but it'll be awkward and tense, knowing you were once an item. You can remain on good terms, but it'll never be as it were before you started going out.

  • 9 years ago

    You will feel great about spreading your legs, sucking the dong, humiliating yourself, like the little young tramp you are. So you will feel better like a piece of human excrement, giving everything to another human piece of waste. Good luck in life dummy.

Still have questions? Get your answers by asking now.