How important is sex in a marriage?

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I have been married almost 2 years, dating my husband for 7. 

When we first got together the sex was HOT. There was lots of intense passion and it was all consuming. 

Over the years it has dwindled off and although still good its not as it was. We hardly kiss anymore, and when we do it feels forced and not very enjoyable (hence why we don't do it). 

Neither of us are bothered by our sex life- DH is successful and with that comes long hours, high stress and late nights at home preparing for meetings and such. 

My girlfriends have told me I should be worried that my husband doesnt want to have sex with me all the time.. but I know how busy he is, and if I was that busy I would sometimes pick sleep over sex too!

Should I be worried?

Leena · Accepted Answer

He is probably giving you less than you want or has a younger chick he's banging on the side. Afterall hot momma, he was 22 while he was banging a 16 yeard old you right? haha right. So, maybe he's found younger and hotter? hahaha

Anonymous · Answer

Sex is very important in a marriage, but not for the reasons your friends have probably stated.  Having regular (not the same as constant) sex is important.   Think of your sex life as a tide.. it ebbs and flows.  Sometimes it is really hot and passionate (eg, at the start of a relationship, on holidays etc)  sometimes it is almost non existent (you are both stressed and busy with work/kids/life).  It doesn't stay one way forever.  You do have to work at your sex-life, like every other part of your relationship, but you shouldn't be upset becase it isn'that 'we just got together' sex all the time.

Blondie · Answer

Sounds to me like you need a vacation.
Unless yiu are completely conent with this "just friends" thing you two have which is very normal after being together a long time. You should buy a bottle of wine and get some hot undies

Anonymous · Answer

u have been married only 2 years and sex has already dwindled? wow. and don't u worry - he is still fantasizing about young hot chicks. when he will be around 50 he will do it on practice

Mark · Answer

sex in marriage is very important girl!
look what you need to do is spice things up like buy lingerie, surprise him in bed, morning sex, try new sexual things, etc.

you guys are still young and better enjoy the sex because when you get older, its just not the same and it is harder for men to get it up lol.

have as much sex and oral sex as you can because if you do not, it will get boring which is NOT good!

Universeone · Answer

You should worry his health.
Even tired, the desire for sex will be same. But if he got severe stress or disease, desire for sex wilk be greatly decreased. 
Bring him to doctor and check his health.
If required, consult with specialist.

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