How to get over my cousin's engagement?

I read this earlier and wasn't sure if I should say what I am thinking. So here goes and please don't be offended, I am just trying to figure this out and give an honest answer. You are not losing your best friend/older brother, you are gaining a sister. It is common for a couple in love to want to be together all of the time. My husband and I wrote each other letters to have as soon as we got home from work to "sustain" us until we could be together that night. This is way back in the day before people lived together or if you did, were considered trash.

.They are very young but many people marry young, I am wondering how long they have been together and surely they have spent time together as you say he would visit you every day. He has become a new person, in love with the love of his life, but that does not mean that he loves you any less, it's just that his priorities have changed.

Now the hard part, I am wondering, again if perhaps you might have feelings more than cousin love and don't know it and this is why it is so hard. This is not unusual---I had a cousin that was so nice and treated me special and like I was such a nice person that I think I had a crush on him, but couldn't do anything about it because he was my cousin. I just wanted to be around him. (a lots)

So, just try to be happy for him because right now he is very happy and the best thing you could do is to love his fiance and be thankful he is happy. Later, after some of the goo goo stage has worn off, he might have time for a game every now and then and he will always be the one that you can talk to when you have a problem. Try to accept his behaviour because it is only going to get worse after he is a married. He will want to be with his true love all of the time, it's natural when you are in love//after a couple of years it might not be quite as intense.

He is and will always be your older brother and best friend, just married and one day he will have children and you will love them so much. This is all I know to say and I hope it has helped. He truly loves you like sisterly and his fiance wifely. You are lucky that he will still be in your life, just not as much. Peace,JL

Dude, CHILL! I am sorry, but the most important person in his life is NOT his cousin, or his brother, or his best friend - it is the woman that he is going to marry and (hopefully) spend the rest of his life with.

Give him a little space. He will come back to you. He will return to being your best friend. But he will be a different guy than before, because now there is going to be somebody even more important in his life - his wife. And that is the way that it should be. Try to look at her as someone who is going to make him even better. Not competition. Not a distraction. She is going to be the other, and likely better, half of him. She will make him a whole. Learn to enjoy and embrace the complete guy that he becomes. Because if it comes down to her or you - you will lose. You will lose him, and you will lose the opportunity to develop a new friend - one who thinks he is really great just like you do.

Believe it or not, there is a girl out there somewhere that you are going to find and she is going to become as important to you as this girl is to your cousin. She is going to become the most important part of your life. And trust me, it is worth it. I met mine a while back - we will be celebrating our 39th anniversary in about 2 weeks. In the meantime - take a look around. Your cousin was an important mentor for you. He taught you life lessons. Who in your family could use an "older brother" like him? That is your job now.

Good luck to you. I know you are going through pain - but if you love them (and I mean BOTH of them) you will not lose them. Instead, you may just gain much, much more.

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This is tough. He has moved on and, in a sense, you have been replaced by the woman who will be his wife. Hopefully you will be able to forge a new relationship with them as a couple, but until you have someone and can see them on a couples basis, she may not want to "share" him with you. This is a time of transition for all of you, and certainly a loss for you. But give it some time. It will also help if you can be genuinely friendly with her. And let him know your hopes hopes to keep up the friendship in the future!

This is life. People grow up and move on to live their own lives, so don't expect your cousin to always be there for you like he used to be. You can talk to him and ask to spend time with him whenever he is available. For instance, tell him that the two of you should have special time together once a week to enjoy each others company.

I did the same thing to my friends, we used to party and run all around Los Angeles, however when I met my husband I had no desire to do those things anymore. My friends wanted to know what was wrong with me they did not think the change in me was for the good, I could not explain to them how my life had changed so much. I still liked them I just loved my husband much more. (His friends said the same thing about me)

Marriage will change his relationship with you regardless of how you feel. You have to respect that his new life with his wife will become his priority. That doesn't mean that he will forget about you. I'm sure you will still have a lot of fun together. He will love you regardless of where life takes you both