Does this happen to a lot of people after 50 when sex stops?

" re interest ourselves in having sex "

IS that your problem? Not interested any more? Have you TALKED with your husband? Maybe HE is interested but you're not. . . . . .

You BOTH have some serious medical problems. A heart attack is usually preceded by a period of declining ability called Erectile Dysfunction (ED). ED is a MAJOR indicator of pending circulation problems, even heart attack! It has been found that men who report ED as their "only" symptom often end up being diagnosed with circulation or heart problems within 5 years.

On the reverse side, men who have had heart attacks OFTEN report a reduction is sexual ability. Not necessarily "need", but ability. This is most often due to fear that they might "kick off" during sex, but the treatment drugs themselves can cause a reduction in ability.

Your husband has MEDICAL problems. He may have PLENTY of interest, but lacks the ability. If this is the acse, then you DON'T NEED any things to " re interest ourselves in having sex ".

What you BOTH need is to visit your doctors TOGETHER, and discuss this problem open and frankly with you medical doctors.

I hope not! I'm 34, on the larger side (toot my own horn online ;) ), and can't get enough as it is. A few times a week, at least every other day, keeps me happy and satisfied and I would like to think that I can still continue to have my sexual pleasures when I'm in my 50's. As far as the heart attack goes it could be a very good possibilty as to why his erections aren't so often. The heart pumps and supplies blood and the erection needs blood pumped to it for it to be an erection. Blood flow issue could very well make him seem impotent at times. There are special pills for that if a doctor agrees it is safe for him to take. As far as your surgery, was it done for cosmetics or illness ie..cancer? Just curious because cosmetically it is done to appear more attractive and heighten gratification and if you lost sensitivity than I feel for ya because that is the opposite of what is desired. If it was done for illness you must keep in mind that the sensitivities are due to nerve endings and if the laser severed some of those nerves then bye-bye gratification sensitivities. There is always the possibilty of the nerves regaining their sensitivity, but if there is scar tissue there then the rougher skin won't allow the full sensation as easily. If you need to rekindle that area of your relationship then I would suggest an all inclusive couples retreat somewhere in the Caribbean. Hedonism is a clothing optional resort in Negril, Jamaica. Maybe after so may years it's time to spice things up. Sex should always be desired and if the desire disappears, so does the sex. Time to add the spice in life. You both may need to put aside your inhibitions.

Yes, things do slow down as we age. You can help his lack of intrest by bringing a sense of erotica back to the bedroom. Try to find the bad girl within you.

Go see a doctor because I know people who have sex, and they are much older than you are. They do use Viagra or Cialis, so I'd see what the doctors can do. Life is too short!

My parents are around your age and they don't have sex anymore. You could always try oral, or watch porn together, go on date nights, ect.

it is a health issue,not an age issue

i am 57 everything still works and i still want it

You should do a threesome! You would love it and your husband would erect fully functioning again.