What to do about this girl?

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I'll try and keep it short:
I met this lifeguard at a pool on Saturday. Talked to her during my time there and got her number. Anyway we texted Sunday night a bit, she was using lots of smileys and 'ha's', despite being a little shy in person, which I took to be a very good thing.

Anyway, she was texting pretty quickly until the last text which took a few hours. It was late when I received it so I replied in the morning and haven't heard back since (now Wednesday evening). I thought things were going great but this is a little worrying.

My friend said to ask her out soon before our chemistry is lost and I agreed but surely I should wait for her to reply before I ask her to do something? Also, my friend recommends texting tomorrow even if she hasn't replied, asking her out. Is texting fine? He thinks calling will put too much pressure on her & not let her think about it, which I can see, but is text asking out lame or ?

Thanks

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I agree that you must ask her out soon, or you will miss out on capitalizing the initial interest levels. I don't think you should be bothered by the time she took to reply, and maybe you could consider that as a sign that she wants you to take it to the next level. You say she is shy, so she will want someone to be straightforward and confident. I think that texting her out is fine as long as you choose your words carefully. Calling her would be okay too. Not giving her enough time to think will probably get you a more honest reply, rather than a censored message. Plus, if she likes spontaneity and gets bored with the mundane, then calling her will be something new and exciting.

Piggy · Answer

All sorts of things could have happened - she could be out of credit on her phone, the battery was flat (with all that texting!), she could even have lost her phone, or dropped in and it's broken.

I suggest you send her a text to ask her out, and state that you will call at a certain time to confirm details.  If you hear nothing and the call goes through to voicemail, maybe the phone is lost, so the next step would be to go back to the pool as normal, and say "Hi, everything OK?  Hope we can meet for a coffee soon" then leave it with her.  That way she can see you are interested, but there is no pressure.

Don't assume it's you, there could be loads of other reasons why she hasn't got back to you.  There could be illness in her family, for example.

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