Is it normal to feel l this?

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Well cut a long story short I was with my ex for 2 years, never argued, he's started new job, four months later out of the blue he split with me to be with his new work collegue. 

Now that was 9 months ago, and I'm STILL not over him! I have done everything I should, start excersicing, start a degree next month, been on dates (all be it not many) I go out with friends, I'm
Looking for a new job, even everytime I think of him i try and change my thought pattern. I have tried everything. Yet he is still the first thought in the morning, last at night. I cannot get him out of my head! Is it normal to still be hopelessly in love with your ex even if he has well and truly moved on. I haven't spoken to him in 7 months or seen him since the day I walked out of the door 9 months ago. How on earth am I supposed to get over him. I wish I could meet someone else but I just don't find any other guy attractive! it's horrible! Someone please help!

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How to move on from your ex:

Remove Old Photos: Make sure there are no photos of you and your ex lying around the house. You could be having a great day and then all of a sudden go into a drawer and find a photo of the two of you hugging in a swimming pool. While you may not have gotten sunburned at the pool, you might have gotten burned by your ex and you don't need to be reminded of it. Pack up all of the photos and put them in a box far away from any place you could stumble upon it.  Save cell phone pictures to a folder in a location you never or rarely go to.

Go New Places: Going to the same restaurants, cafés and coffee shops that you went to with your ex should be off your radar. It's best to find new places with new faces.  Don't go into places where they know you as a couple when you want the world to now know you as a single person.

Remove Cell Phone Reminders: Delete any old voicemail messages or texts from your ex. That birthday text message your former partner sent you last year might have been cute then, but if you stumble upon it now it loses its luster. Clear out your inbox and make room for all the new messages and possibilities. 

Select New Music: Don't listen to songs that remind you of your ex. There's nothing like making an effort to put your ex out of your mind and then the song that played when you started dating starts up on your iPod. Clear the decks and make a new playlist. 

Login to Your New Life: The Internet probably contains many reminders of your ex. Your Facebook may need the biggest clean-up. Head in there and delete any photos with both of you together. Also, the friends that went over to your ex's side of the fence once the split happened should be unfriended immediately. 

Think Positive Thoughts: It's not just physical things that can remind you of your ex. Thoughts that we have can change our outlook on life, so think positively. Don't remind yourself of all of the things your ex did that you couldn't stand. Instead, be positive and focus on all of the things you're going to achieve in your new life. 

Make Notes of Your Progress: Write down the progress that you're making as a new single person. Get a journal and put down your thoughts as they come to you. List where you've been and where you're headed. This will keep your eye on the prize -- happiness.

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the old saying is it takes half the time you were with the person to get over them
personely i was with someone for 6 months and it took me 6 months to get back to me again
if its unexpected its almost like a death you are griving and still need time to proses the fact that its ended and it will never be again

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