Should I be angry with my sister?

Yes, I would say you are being used and I would be very upset that my own sister did that to me and would not talk to her much anymore. You should feel angry and you should let her know. You gave her more notice than most would and she could very well have taken time off if she wanted to when you went to visit but chose not to. No one can make you do anything you don't want to. Do not pay anything out to her for her kids. Then, she is just using you. She should not even ask you for money. That is terrible. Sorry but your sister is not the same as she was and is using you and being completely selfish and only thinking of herself. Don't play into her hands and don't let her do that to you anymore. Learn your lesson. She is playing you. Don't let anyone do that to you. Not even family.

It honestly sounds as if your sister is not as sincere as you would have hoped, and has negative reasons for her actions. However, she is your sister and you clearly care and love for her very much. What she did was wrong, but people aren't perfect, and we all have our faults or flaws. Hers might just be the inability to be compassionate towards others, or to do things for other people.

Sisters are a very important part of life, and when you have grown up with somebody and love them, nothing should get between that relationship. Your sister does sound a little greedy, and maybe talking to her might give you the opportunity to put your emotions out there, and for her to fix her mistakes.

Take it from me, there is nothing worth losing your sister over. She is your sister, she makes you happy and you love her. Living far away may give you the opportunity to sort out how you feel, and to become your own person, without having anger for her.

Maybe next time try calling her, or see if she puts any effort in. You sound like a very nice and genuine person, with a good head on their shoulders. Just do what your gut tells you to do. Just please don't block her out of your life completely - you will regret it.

Good luck and take care! :)

This kind of thing has been going on for years and you still don't get the message. Is there any point to you continuing to set yourself up for disappointment? Do not make plans to go see her. Do let her know that you would like to see her anytime she can arrange to come. That's right, she must come to your house or arrange to meet in an agreed upon central location. You must not pay any of her expenses. You must say," Sorry, no can do." if she asks you to pay for her children's expenses. Of course part of you should be feeling used, you have been. So, stop!

I'd feel used. I'd be angry. It sounds as though she is blowing you off. If it weren't a relative I'd walk away and never look back. Since its family, its a tough call. There is no reason she can't take some time off with that much notice.

I'd wait for her to call or visit you.

She also may feel guilty about the money you paid out for her children and not know how to act around you.

Let me tell you something. I went through a period of about 6 years not speaking to my brother. It was a stupid petty thing that shouldn't have happened. I have a sister dealing with a serious illness and I don't keep in touch with her nearly as much as I should. Why? Because I have trouble dealing with her mortality. There will be all sorts of "reasons" to not speak or be mad at people in your life. Ignore them. Just ignore them. Don't be angry with your sister. Love her.

Bingo! That was then, now is now.

Either discuss this with her, write it in a letter

maybe, but take the hint. Things have changed

and she takes advantage of you.

Maybe in time through life experiences she

will appreciate you again. Good luck.

I'm so sorry! I'd be simmering enough to talk to her about it and would not waste any more time trying to visit anymore. Phone calls will have to suffice.

I think Morningstar hit the nail on the head with her answer.