How to explain to people that I don't want to be a Muslim anymore?

Hi there,

Ok, I'm Muslim and when I first read you question I was going to ask you to rethink, research Islam more, evaluate your believes but I won't :) If thats what you want to do, it's your choice!

Your question is how to explain to them and I say that the best way to explain to a Muslim is for the answer to be from Islam!

Tell them that religion and believes are an action of the heart not something that you can force on someone!

Quote for them verses from the Quran:

"let there be no compulsion in religion" [Al-baarah:256]

“If it had been your Lord’s will, all of the people on Earth would have believed. Would you then compel the people so to have them believe?” [Sûrah Yûnus: 99]

Tell them the story of the bedouin who once came to prophet Muahamad and told him that he wanted to cancel the pledge he made with the prophet and leave Islam. The prophet refused but the man never changed his mind so he was left to leave medina peacefully! This story is from the Bukhari!

Also, at the time of Umar ibn Abd Al Aziz (who is called the fifth caliph of Islam because of how close to the caliphs he was) some people accepted Islam & all these people renounced Islam sometimes later. Maimoon bin Mahran the governor of the area wrote to the caliph about these people. In reply Umar bin Abdul Aziz ordered him to release those people and asked him just to re-impose jizya on them.

Tell them that you understand that they want you to change your mind but that no one can possibly force someone to believe in something and that its better for you to say it than to hide it and be a "monafeq"!

Tell them that if this is the way the prophet and some of the greatest Islamic leaders dealt with people leaving Islam then surely they shouldn't do anything different.

You should understand that islamically they should still try to re-invite you to Islam but they should not force anything on you so tell them that!

Good Luck!

Edit:

I am living & studying in England too btw! & This might sound strange but I wouldn't mind talking to your parents or friends if they happen to be too aggressive or whatever :)

Pretend to have a change of heart. Now make sure that you can stop being 'overtly' a Muslim without worrying about getting killed. Then be, overtly, obviously, publicly, openly, whatever you want to be.

As for you not wanting to be a Muslim, I'm surprised only that a Muslim had the brains and courage to realize that Islam was insane. Congratulations on that.

As for your 'friends' asking you to explain to them why you don't like Islam, they don't really want to know. They're just wasting your time and building evidence so you can be killed by the hardliners (depending on where you live and how openly psychotic Muslims are there). There's tons of stuff wrong with Islam but they'll just have BS for you so they can go on pretending that Islam is 'perfect. Look at Skeptics Annotated Quran. They went over the Koran with a fine toothed comb and Muslims still pretend the Koran is something it's not. So don't bother with them.

Again, until you know you're safe, pretend to believe. Better to be an infidel pretending to be a Muslim than a dead honest infidel. Make sure you're safe first. Then feel free to send them all post cards "Dear Muslims, I've abandoned Islam. C'iao."

Be real with yourself you are being honest with yourself which is a good thing. Tell them you believe in God but just don't believe and are very skeptical that Islam is the true way to God, this might make them upset but tell them you are being real with them and that you want space and respect about what you believe. Another question I have is what is religion? I think Islam definitely constitutes what a religion is, since it leans heavily on things you have to do. I really do advise to keep searching for God , there are a lot of scriptures about God that are not included in the islamic faith, you can't dismiss the fact that the Bible would be a good source to look at. I respect you for being real with yourself, I think If I was born a muslim I would be dissalusioned too, I've heard the word love is not mentioned in the Koran explore the other scriptures that are not islamic, good luck and may God enlighten your path.

Consider yourself lucky because Islam is a mental disease which damages brain beyond repair. Once you are infected your brain stops thinking. But I think you are very young so your brain still has time to repair itself. But sorry to say in Islam there is no choice either be a Muslim or die and if you are living in Muslim majority country you indeed have no choice. After sinning for several lives people take birth in such countries where there is no choice.

For the time being, I think silence on this matter is the best way forward. If someone brings up your faith or wants to discuss religion, islam or otherwise, just say that you would rather not talk about it and change the subject.

John

Shame man I'm very sorry to hear what you are going through :(

I may not be a Muslim but in my opinion maybe you should tell them that if they are truly your friends they will love you whether or not you are a Muslim. In Christianity we are even taught to love our enemies and to treat them the way we would like to be treated :)

I'm so happy that you still believe in God, our mighty creator and i fully believe that He is slowly welcoming you into our family :) But to answer your question further I think it would be wrong to lie, i know it may be hard but i think it's still wrong to lie no matter what situation you are in:) You know what they say, "Honesty is the best policy". Hope this helps you somehow :) If you are interested at all please try reading the New Testament and see if it may convince you :) I hope and pray that it may :)

Well, You said you don't want to be a ... anymore! not I'm giving up being a ...

this means that you haven't committed yourself to another path ... so your friends think you are lost at sea.

To convince your friends that you are okay you should tell them about your new ideas and see what they say.

For example you might say 'the mosk is too boring, I'm not going anymore'.

Ahhh i don't know that you are a real Muslim or not but...if u r then...really bad !

you are going from the light to the dark ! how unlucky...

In the Name of Allâh, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful

If thou bring them not a revelation, they say: "Why hast thou not got it together?" Say: "I but follow what is revealed to me from my Lord: this is (nothing but) lights from your Lord, and Guidance, and mercy, for any who have faith."

7:203

When the Qur'an is read, listen to it with attention, and hold your peace: that ye may receive Mercy.

7:204

So patiently persevere: for verily the promise of Allah is true: nor let those shake thy firmness, who have (themselves) no certainty of faith.

al-Qur'an 30:60

‘Will they not, then, try to understand this Qur’an?

Had it come from anyone other than God, they would have found in it many an inner contradiction.’

(al-Nisa 4:82)

‘Surely We have sent you [O Muhammad] with the Truth, as a herald of good tidings and a warner, for there were never a people without a warner having come among them.’

(al-Fatir 35: 24)

We have sent you to the entire mankind to give them good tidings, and warn them; but most people do not understand this.’

(Saba’ 34: 28

We have sent you to the entire mankind to give them good tidings, and warn them; but most people do not understand this.’

(Saba’ 34: 28

We have sent you to the entire mankind to give them good tidings, and warn them; but most people do not understand this.’

(Saba’ 34: 28

Leaving islam isn't an option,is it ?

You should know.

Keep your mouth shut,and keep your head down,untill you're ready to leave.

Watch your back.

Getting out of false religion is exactly what God wants you to do. He is going to use the UN to destroy false religion. Rev 18:4 And I heard another voice out of heaven say: “Get out of her, my people, if YOU do not want to share with her in her sins, and if YOU do not want to receive part of her plagues. 5 For her sins have massed together clear up to heaven, and God has called her acts of injustice to mind. 6 Render to her even as she herself rendered, and do to her twice as much, yes, twice the number of the things she did; in the cup in which she put a mixture put twice as much of the mixture for her. 7 To the extent that she glorified herself and lived in shameless luxury, to that extent give her torment and mourning. For in her heart she keeps saying, ‘I sit a queen, and I am no widow, and I shall never see mourning.’ 8 That is why in one day her plagues will come, death and mourning and famine, and she will be completely burned with fire, because Jehovah God, who judged her, is strong.