Need help on the army wife life.?

The military can be hard on someone who has no experience with it--it's not civilian life, your husband will not have the time or the ability to attend to your every need--and he may be gone a lot. That being said, you will also have a whole community of people who can support you, a lot of free services you can take advantage of, and free medical and mental/emotional care when you need it.

The hardest part about being a military wife is dealing with the idea that you don't have the same freedom to come and go as you might in the civilian world. There are protocols you need to follow--courtesies you need to learn. When you get to the base, look for the orientation person that is supposed to help you fit in and settle in. And don't whine about not having your husband all to yourself, or what may seem like a lack of control. That's the basic fact of the military--they teach this to the soldiers, but not always to the wives. See if there is a wives' club or check out the E-club for groups you can join that will give you a hand. Pretty much everyone sticks together (and this means enlisted with enlisted, officer with officer--not mixed together.)

The great part about being a military wife is that you have so many people who are experiencing the exact same things you are--and there is a lot of comraderie. Don't isolate yourself or think there is no help out there--there's a lot. Go to command events, picnics, family days, learn the rank structure so you don't make embarrassing mistakes and do all you can to support that guy--he's laying his life on the line for millions. That might mean you have to bend a little, give a little and compromise a lot--but it's nothing compared to the sacrifice he's making.

But if you run into trouble--SEEK HELP IMMEDIATELY. Don't put up with abuse, or financial issues that make your life miserable. There's help for those things too.

Welcome to the club. And try to be flexible. Find something you can do--a job, even if it's part-time--or a hobby that brings you into contact with other wives and other people. It's rewarding and it's good for the soul and the marriage. Take advantage of the good stuff--the education, the activities, the friendships--you won't be sorry.

:) Congratulations on your impending marriage! God bless!

Don't do it, trust me its not worth it at all, I been there n done it. He will b a whole different person when u see him again n its not the same person you known foror been with. Wish u luck n best wishes

Accept that there will be 'other women', for one.