What do you do when someone hurts you so bad all you can do is cry?

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Without going into long boring details a family member lied, cheated, pretended to be someone else for her financial gain.  My husband fell for it against my better judgment.  As a result we are now losing our home and almost everything else.  I am the one who seems to be suffering most as he is deployed.  I can't stop crying, I can't eat, every time I do I throw up, I can't sleep.  I called my Dr. who tweaked my meds some.  This is not a time to say "pull up your big girl panties and deal with it".  I'm also in a bind because I recently had surgery and am almost unable to leave the house since I can't use my right arm for anything and am unable to drive. Any ideas to help me feel better?

Sue · Accepted Answer

Cry it out as much as you can.  Write a letter explaining how angry you are to both this family member and also to your husband who didn't listen to you. Do NOT send them; it is merely a way for you to get out your anger.  If after a few days, you're still crying, call the doctor and get a readjustment on your medications and a referral to see a counselor.  You have been badly hurt. It's going to take some time to get over it. Be patient with yourself.  Consult a lawyer and see if there is anything you can do to recover your financial losses.

slydad · Answer

If you call 911 and tell them you are emotionally unstable, they will take you to a hospital to be evaluated, if you say you may hurt yourself if left alone or that you can't be responsible for yourself than they may keep you in the hospital for a couple day. That would give you some time to just veg out, relax and get your feet on the ground. If you have kids then you should return and ask for plan B.

DS

Ms. X · Answer

How horrible!  I would contact an attorney and look into going after this person for fraud!  Also, check your state's state's attorney's website to see if they have a fraud division.  See also the FBI's fraud section of their website.  "http://www.fbi.gov/scams-safety/fraud"  

Do everything you can to go after this person legally AND also do everything you can to destress and take care of your health.  Going after them legally will help you regain your sense of control and improve your mental state.

In addition, it sounds like your husband may be a bit naive and uneducated in frauds and scams.  The cover story in the Oct. 2012 issue of Consumer Reports explains the most common frauds and scams and how to avoid being taken in:  http://www.consumerreports.org/cro/magazine/2012/10/protect-yourself-from-the-latest-scams/index.htm

DAR76 · Answer

Wow, that sounds tough.  maybe you should look for support in other family members who didn't let you down or get spiritual counseling.  Good luck.

Anonymous · Answer

stab them in the jugular so they wont scream

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