My in laws don't bother with my son?

Your right about one thing, equalness is what balances the scales of family Justice!

I take it it's his sisters kid,that is what he see's as a closer relationship or he owes sis big time (guilt) and maybe it's you who they see as pushy' drama? Have u evaluated yourself & are you perhaps missing something? Maybe you somehow distant them? Their brother they may see as you taken him from them & they see/feel him distance,not like it use to be?

There's more sides too all story's to be fair it could be you who don't see things through their eyes? If your perfect (lol) well just don't see it as them being perfect all ppl have weak points & we all need to grow. Leave it be,don't make waves & don't see it as you being the injured party, let it go & know you did what your suppose to be doing,don't slack on the little ones & as they see how much a bigger person you are for not being small of it all,they will start seeing the error's of their ways.

If they do not then,they are the losers! Let them be the defects,not you & yours,be better then they & take the high road,you'll have nothing on your back..k?

Let it go~

adding~If anything good comes out of all of this...is your little man will be so proud that you are better then they & he will be a better man..isn't that the most importance thing of all? Showing/acting out in ways we can better ourselves & our world? Example,no pay backs b/c kids always are the ones who lose & get hurt..k?

Or move all down to Jerry's kids...and swing it out! Jerry Springer/Swinger's that is...is dat wut u wnt? lol..see how hate manifesto's? It's getting down right petty now..let them be who they will,you be bigger! Or the kids repeat & their lives become small.

You son only knows what adults feed him,nothing else...he should be playing w/his toys or whatever he has to learn@play with! Not who's getting how much & how much money is being spent on whom! That's teaching him how to be like the ones we have not heard from and to have their side told as well. If in a jury pool it appears that all the users here would of hung others w/out any evidence to go on,just your words and thoughts of it all alone! That's scary..someone gave you good advice on this matter,you should use it and pass it down to the generation to come. Stop the madness and pettiness,your husband may be the one who is the sensible party here,he doesn't see a problem...either do I...u do.

Need nothing;desire everything.

Choose what shows up.

Feel your feelings...

Yet when all the emotion is done,

be still and reflect and ask yourself this,

am I doing/being fair?

Right,Good?

Then leave it alone,

all will fall into it's rightful place n space....

be done w/it,put it to bed~

Sit that husband down one more time and explain to him that your son is being hurt by his family's callous disregard for his feelings. They are the ones who are doing wrong by letting this show. It's one thing to have a party for your own child and not for your brother or sister's child--that is expected. And not every child gets a party. BUT--to be as blatant about playing favorites in front of your child is just cruel.

I would not cut ties--your husband will not stand for that, apparently. And maybe he is siding with them because he doesn't want to cause more problems. But if they invite you to their homes so they can deliberately snub your son then you can refuse to go. You can't force them to be closer or care more, but you can act as if it does not bother you so your son doesn't feel the pain doubly--from them AND you. And if they can't accept that then too bad.

And don't encourage your son to expect anything from this nervy bunch. They aren't gonna give it.

What a shame.

Yeah, i would tell my husband he is welcome to spend all the time he likes with them, but i will not see my son intentionally snubbed by them anymore. Obviously, they have not let go of your brother in law's accusations. Even if they believe that, or have hard feelings toward you, it's NO EXCUSE for hurting a child. I would just say you and your kids will not be interacting with his family anymore. If he won't protect your son, you have an obligation to do so. I wouldn't penalize his neice for the obvious favoritism. It's not her fault. Send her birthday presents and such, but don't expose your son to that garbage.

Edited to add: do not discuss any of this in front of your son. He should never be allowed to feel that there might be some deficit in him that causes them not to care for him. The deficit is theirs, not his.

You've got 2 problems here- your in laws and your husband

I have a M.I.L like that, but I gave up on here years ago,

when my 3 sons birthdays and Christmas were ignored

Thankfully my husband saw it as well, and rarely contacts her or her brood

She moved house recently and didn't even bother to tell us where she's gone to

So we live without her and my sons never mention her ,or the other so called relatives

you're better off without them all

If I were you I wouldn't let them see their nephew anymore,why bother if they only care about the niece.that's very wrong for him to give her more than your son,just move on,you don't need them.All you need is your children,because they are more important than anyone else.

sounds like he has no bond with you or son. Must be a weird household.