Is he worth my time? he lies, puts me aside and makes me feel worthless! (geniune answers please).?

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I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half,both now 18, he was always very nice&we got on well. over the past 3 months or so, things have got bad. He's always been quite a jealous person and what I'd say (and my friends and some other people) controlling- he wanted me to cut all contact with any guy friend I had and to delete them in my phone etc. So I did, thinking I'd be respecting him as I thought he was worth it. 

One night I was texting him, he said he was at home doing "nothing much" and I later found out he had gone out drinking with his friend! (This is at 17 btw) why did he not tell me!? I confronted him- I was angry! Why would he lie! I hate liars. To me lying means you have done something wrong or don't want to get found out... 

On my 18th birthday one of my friends asked to go out drinking in town, I thought I'd mention this to him and he was like "no I don't want you going!" So I didn't go with her.

Anyway, as soon as he turned 18 ALL the 'rules' he'd almost put in line that applied to me- didn't apply to him! He started saying he wants to go out drinking and I can't stop him- yet he is quite ok to do this to me!? I just want fairness in the relationship. 

 He says things and makes me feel absolutely worthless sometimes, I feel like his object not his girlfriend. 

He'd asked to see me after not seeing each other for a while and I said yes, but had other things on that day too but I couldve seen him too... Anyway he told me he was off out with his friend instead- I was quite annoyed- he'd asked to see me, and it was arranged! 

He stopped texting me for 3 days after that. I ended up texting him saying how I felt and why did he ignore me for 3 days- he started saying things- I told him it's his loss and he claimed it wasn't. Then started telling me he misses me and loves me- I then said I don't want him back as it clearly doesn't work. I then found out he'd been out all night drinking- which he would DETEST me doing!
Is this guy worth it?

glamtastic86 · Accepted Answer

This guy sounds like an absolute douchebag and if I were you, I would get out of this 'relationship' asap. You sound like a nice, fair and intelligent young lady and I think you know very well that this is not right or what you deserve. 

The moment a man makes you feel even a little insignificant or negative about yourself, then leave. A real man would want to make you feel like a princess all the time, not this rubbish. He has no idea what he has in front of him and is taking advantage of you in every way. 

Tell him it's over and how you feel. He will come crawling back with apologies, but if you were to carry on, you will only end up resenting him and this does not go away. End it, have some time with your friends and people who genuinelly care about you and go find someone who will treasure you for who you are. This is my experience. Keep your head held high and walk away. He's the one who will crumble without you and it's everything he deserves.

Feelsolost · Answer

You are young and one day you will learn that you are your own person and no man has the right to tell you what to do. So you should end things with him cause he clearly doesn't care about you or your feelings. 

And by the way no one should make you feel bad in a relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

get rid i had someone like that and in the end it messed me up so bad i went suicidal he blamed me for everything made feel sooo small in the end because he had scared me that much i had 2 face facts that he wasnt for me so i got rid and ive been re-building myself ever since and that 6 years ago ive finally found someone that treats me with the respect that i never thought i deserved. Hope this has helped.

Anonymous · Answer

No, not worth the time nor trouble.

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