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Sometimes I just feel stupid and regret doing somethings...?
Okay this is a dumb question but let me try to explain..
So I'm a freshman in high school. I'm a guy. It's a private school. Let me tell you the two scenarios that happened this week. So I was getting lunch and I took the little basket of chili cheese fries. I decided I just wanted one with cheese so I put the one back and tried to pick up the other one. The ladies serving the food were like" you can't do that. Once you touch it you can't put it back its for health reasons" (which I understand) So they are like are you gonna take and I said no and apologized. (They have to throw it away because I touched it) I felt stupid. Next situation: so I need to ask someone out to homecoming. And my friend's older sister and her friend are really close to me. The girl "Z" (not saying names) was going to tell the girl I like and ask about homecoming. I didn't want her to. So I was stopping her and my hands were on her shoulder area, because I was trying to stop her. And the janitor who is really nice to those comes up to me face to face and tells (I forgot what he said) me "don't touch her, and apologize". So I did and us 3 knew he was just jokingly "threatening" me doing it. But now I feel embarrassed to be around him. So can anyone give me any tips to just get over these things?
Thanks!!!
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- 9 years agoFavorite Answer
Hey buddy, don't be so tough on yourself. I think the problem with you is you're too insecure and you aim to please. You gotta put in your mind that everyone makes mistakes and has embarrassing moments (me having a lot). The thing is with you, you think to much about what other people think of you and you feel horrible when you think you're bringing people discomfort (when in these cases you really aren't) which leads to you having discomfort and over-thinking. Listen, use these embarrassing moments as an advantage, If you make no mistakes you can't really be successful. Here's an example: When your still a toddler and your parent just got you a new toy, you can't hold it right the first time, so you try and put it in your mouth to see if it's food, after you know it isn't you presume to trying to hold it right, you failed 3 times, finally, you learned how to hold it. It's always been like that, since we were children, we learn by making mistakes. Here's what you do:
You aim to please.
You're insecure and unsure of things.
You regret things.
Ask yourself these 4 questions.
Why am I so unsure of myself and insecure? Why do I think I'm not worthy enough? Why do I regret things? Why do I think I have to try and be flawless to make everyone like me?
After you ask these questions, you'll realize you have no real answer for any of them.
Why live life full of regrets when you know you can't re-write the past? Instead of punishing yourself for 'mistakes' you've made, why not learn from them? You're a human being, you're no different then any other person, no one is worse nor better than you, you're your own person it makes you equal yet original to everybody else, you have flaws, everyone does, being flawless would make you inhuman. You wanna know how to get over these things? Learn to accept it. You've gone through plenty of embarrassing situations and you will go through plenty more, stop punishing yourself for something that's out of your control, when you go home everyday, think about how your day went, no matter how embarrassing, learn from it, laugh about it with no regrets.
Source(s): 18 year old male studying psychology. - 9 years ago
Okay youre stressing too much about this because they arent embarrassing. If it makes you feel better I peed the bed at my friends grandmas house when I was.7-8. Dont feel embarassed! And don't feel stupid everyone probably forgot by now. What do you think, everytime the lunch ladies see you theyre like "oh...its the kid who picked up the fries and put them down...what a loser!!" No. Dont worry about it :-)