(Almost) 4 year old daugher won't talk to new people....any advice?

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My daughter will be four in December. At home she is a chatterbox and never stops talking. She started school last September when she was 2.5 years old (where we live children start school the year they celebrate their third birthday). She talks to her classmates and her teacher no problem but whenever we meet new people and they say hello or ask her her name she refuses to answer back. I've told her it's okay to talk to new people and that I'm there to look after her but she just refuses to talk. She is a shy child so is there anything I can do to help boost her confidence a little bit. I'm not worried about her would just like her to be a little bit more confident in new situations.

Update:

Thanks "Craigslist acct", I always make a point of saying hello to people and she does too but when they talk to her personally instead of from a distance she clams up. I like the reward idea though, I'll definitely try that one!

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As a parent, we want our kids to act a certain way.  However, that is not always the case.  They do things we would never do.  Accept her.  She is who she is.  You can just accept her and figure she will grow out of it or try to condition her.

You can model how to be social and friendly. Whenever you go out, try to say "hi" and talk to people.  

 If you really want to, you can plan days to just go out to say "hi" to people.  You can get a reward (candy, stickers...whatever she likes) and tell her ahead of time that you are going out to say hi to people.  You do it the first time, then then next time tell her, "If you say hi to someone, then you get {reward}"   Start small, like only one "hi" to begin with.  Gradually work up to having her have a conversation with someone.

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i think of you have dealt with the region nicely. you would be ask your self what proportion mothers and fathers purely shrug and say "bit somebody eh? oh nicely". so i definately think of you're coping with this the spectacular way. how the incident occured might clarify alot. confer with the instructor, if she became staring at she could desire to be waiting to shed some gentle on it. if the different toddler had cornered your daughter and biting became her purely thank you to preserve herself and so on. this could assist you get your head around it and forestall it for next time. additionally confer with the instructor approximately how she became disciplined on the time of the chew. became she informed to not? became she despatched to day holiday? did she could desire to appologize? how the region is dealt with as we talk could have extra effect then it being dealt with at abode later interior the day. fortuitously your daughter is 4, and subsequently waiting to undergo in suggestions and study from any scolding. i think of you have nipped it interior the bud. confer together with her approximately it the following day. talk approximately how she felt purely until eventually now she bit. and are available up with ways to deal with the siutation that don't contain violence. e.g. asserting "stop! i don't love it!!" . superb of luck! at this age i might say the biting became a one off, and he or she would have the ability to not be doing it back.

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(Almost) 4 year old daugher won't talk to new people....any advice?

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