Family won't accept invites or come meet my baby expect us @ their kids sporting events?

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My husband only has 1 family member (a nephew a few yrs younger than my husband & his family) living in our state & they only live 5 miles away.  16 months ago our son was born.  The family has never made any attempt to meet our son.  I’ve invited them over numerous times since the baby was born, invited them to the baby shower, & eventually I stopped wasting my time.  My husband is hurt by the fact they’ve made no attempt to meet our son.  My husband & I have been together for 7 years.  I’ve invited them to our house too many times to count, special events in our lives, or asked if they would like to go out to eat.  The ONLY thing they showed up for was our wedding & the only reason for that is b/c his nephew was a groomsmen.  Invitations have never been reciprocated by them.  Now their sons are playing varsity football & all of a sudden they are back in contact & expect us to come to their games.  I don’t really know how to handle this situation.  This family has always been rude to me.  Telling other members of the family in the beginning not to waste their time getting to know because I was, “just another girlfriend & I would be gone soon anyway.”  

In 16 months they could not find an hour to come visit their newest family member but now they want us to come spend a couple hours every week or every other week watching their kids achievements.  How would you handle this situation?

IWTK · Answer

It seems like jealousy. I have issues like this going on in my family and I take care of them right away.  I tell them we either love each other or we don't.  So the lack of respectful for you should be used to your advantage as to not feeling guilty about whatever you choose to do.  If you go, go and/or if you don't go you don't go.  That is ridiculous what they are doing.  Making it seem as if your son isn't important. I would wait until they come over and invite themselves to come and be family.   Be good to you.

Lynn V · Answer

There is nothing to handle. Apparently, you thought your child was the reincarnation of Ghandi sent here to heal your family rift. Oops, turns out it’s just another baby. These folks have NEVER been involved in your lives, so nothing has changed. Simply another boring day in MyRlativesAreDouchebagsville. Sorry your kid isn’t the great healer you had hoped for. It sucks that they are self-centered and jerky (you write like Nice Person). But it is what it is, and it isn’t going to change. Have kids, live well, prosper.

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Family won't accept invites or come meet my baby expect us @ their kids sporting events?

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