Feeling insecure about husbands past?

You have to get over it...it was STUPID for either of you to discuss lovers you had while apart...all that did was open the door to jealousy and insecurity...

If your husband wanted to be with that woman, he'd have left you...apparently he wants to be with you, so get over your issue with his lover...apparently he's not worrying about the guy(s) you phuqued...

Who brings up the subject of the encounter - you or him? If it is you then you are torturing yourself somewhat. If it is him then he is being insensitive at best and downright cruel at worst. I certainly think that you should not discuss the matter further and you need to stop comparing yourself to this woman. Possibly the answer is to be more sexually confident yourself - you can get help and advice on how to be more adventurous for yourself - not in his company. Then surprise him by trying something new on him - don't tell him about it and DON'T ask him if it was better than that other woman. If he does compare you unfavourably then I'm sorry you need to leave him because it is not fair for you to know that he thinks you are second best to this other woman, no relationship will survive that You don't want to be unhappy again. Good luck to you and take care :)

It seems you now qualify for the "open" marriage meaning at any time in the future, when the road get's rough, each of you is free to have your "space" and that INCLUDES, sleeping with others...Hm.

Now you've created a new "past" in your marital years to include these sexual encounters...Hm.

GOODLUCK staying happy in the future, if the answer WHILE SEPARATED was not so much to think things over about what you had/have? together, but actually violate your commitment to one another of marriage, certainly, in regard to INFIDELITY, ADULTERY...

I imagine you don't like those words dear, but they are, aptly applied here.

That feeling of wanting to "throw up" ? -May linger...forever...

You both could use a little counseling so if (-and probably WHEN) the next separation occurs? You each handle it a little more maturely, to state the least.

Grace

You sound younger, considering when you were to full muturity you possibly can recognize he loves you for who you might be inside of. While you get married you do it in view that that's the quality person for you, now not given that that man or woman appears the nice. Your his spouse he loves you in and out, do not worry about his earlier and look forward to your future... Some women are lovable, some pretty, some sexy, and a few uncommon. I suppose the cute or beautiful ladies generally have characteristics you see on ladies everyday.... The sexy or extraordinary has traits that are unusually, it offers them just a little more apeal.

Good Mother's Day Gift?

Why is your husband still talking about this encounter even after being back with you for a year? That just sounds cruel to me.

You need to have a talk with him and let him know exactly how you feel whenever he brings up this other woman.

Just remember, though, even with your self-perceived flaws, he chose to be with you.

I would tell your husband to not talk about it. It is in the past and move on. If I was separated from my wife, I would not be fooling around with other women since that is still considered committing adultery.

I don't know why you let yourselves fool around with other people during the separation since its considered Adultery. You guys are still officially married.

Husbands acting funny?

How to make friends as a teen?

Go home to your mommy and finish growing up. That applies to him, too.