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helplz asked in HealthMental Health · 9 years ago

Help with bully at school?

There is this bully at school in my lunch who jumps at the chance to make fun of the classes I take, and tries to make me feel stupid, just because he takes some more advanced classes than me. I've always had problems with other people bullying me about the classes I take, or about my intelligence, to the point where I become insecure about my abilities and start thinking that if these people keep saying these things about me, they must be true. It got so bad at one time that during a test I would have obsessive thoughts about me being a failure and that what everyone said about me being stupid and an idiot was true. I take 2 honor classes and I'm one grade high in math, yet, I still have these thoughts all the time. I don't even know why I'm always a victim, and I try avoid making fun of other people unless they do the same to me. I also try to never brag about myself.. How should someone deal with this kind of bullying? How do i prevent these obsessive thoughts from taking over? Please help.

Update:

I feel like just because this person takes higher classes, he may have reason in making fun of me. I keep telling myself he is just an abusive bully, though.

Update 2:

I feel like just because this person takes higher classes, he may have reason in making fun of me. I keep telling myself he is just an abusive bully, though.

Update 3:

I feel like just because this person takes higher classes, he may have reason in making fun of me.

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  • 9 years ago
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    You should confront your bully and have some courage and self confidence. Don't let that a$ $ hole bring you down. Just because he is in the advances classes doesn't mean he is smart as hell. Maybe he has all F and doesn't want to feel shameful so he decides to pick on the lower classes, maybe. Usually jerks like these will come and go. Don't worry bro, I've been bullied a bunch of times. Stand up for yourself.

  • 9 years ago

    The best way to deal with it is by making him or them (if it keeps happening) look stupid. If someone is rude to you, you have to be rude right back. Sometimes the best way to deal with a bully is to give them a buily beatdown....bullies have habits on picking on the weak, so next time you might want to push him back. I don't promote violence whatsoever but in your situation it would stop once you show him that he doesn't phase you. And you showing no fear will scare him.

    You need to learn to be more self-confident. I can tell your really smart...no grammatical or mispelled words. Don't let anyone get the best of you.

  • 9 years ago

    Usually people who are nice and very intelligent get picked on all the time so dont worry okay. Everything is going to be alright if you stay on track and keep getting those As or 100s on your test. Forget that fool. He just thinks that way and does those things to you because they are probably jealous and one more thing - your not there in school to impress them - your there to study and accomplish things....many great things. Im pretty sure thats how Bill Gates felt. Im pretty sure they picked on him and now he is a billionaire and nobody is laughing now.

    They picked on me and laughed at me to, but many of the girls or boys I knew ended up in jail or pregnant with many kids in their early teen years. I went on to college, graduated, worked at a top law firm, got married and have three beautiful children. So all will workout. God does not like ugly and he is watching what that person is doing to you, As long as they dont touch you dont worry about it but if they do you go crazy on them. Also talk to your parents or maybe you have a big cousin that can help you. Good Luck and God bless...

  • 9 years ago

    He's probably insecure about himself too, and making fun of you may help alleviate his insecurities. Maybe his parents make him feel unintelligent at home or possibly his peers or siblings. With most bullies in any issue, they try to make themselves feel superior to others in order to feel good about themselves. Don't take what others say too seriously. You know you're intelligent, just pity those who do not get the appreciation they deserve for their efforts. He's probably under a lot of pressure and failure in his parents eyes or whoever he looks up to may not be an option.

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  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    Its very very hard to ignore your thoughts, and harder to ignore bullies. The best thing to do is tell the principle(chances are if hes good at school then hes a pussy and will back off when he gets in trouble)

    If he physically harms you, throw a couple knuckles in his nose and see how much he cries. as long as you hit him, he will probably back off, its kind of a respect meets fear type deal, dont matter if he beats you up, hitting him will make him **** off

    Also take psychology so you will be able to **** with peoples heads.

    Source(s): Experience :)
  • 9 years ago

    when it comes to bullying remember one thing, all of those are just words...they dont mean anything, a bully will try to find the best worlds to say so as to make you feel as worse as possible and once you've realized this you'll stop caring about whatever anyone has to say bad about you, go and speak to the school counselor if its bothering you too much

  • 9 years ago

    Dont be afraid to fight back. Take a stand against him. Remember bullies will never succeed in life, their victims will surpass them, one day u will see them out on the streets as a loser and they will be asking for money and you will tell them " you should have treated me better back then" and walk away. So learn how to fight and kick their a** and you will feel powerful.

  • 9 years ago

    You could talk to your counselor if it gets really bad. Don't listen to them, you sound really nice and smart. how to prevent it, that is for you to do, stop believing them, you are smart and nice and sound amazing, they are abusive jerks. Best way is just to ignore it as you know it is not true, if it really continues bugging you, again, go to a counselor or talk to someone.....maybe...me :) you can if you want.

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