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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 9 years ago

Why do women hate short men so much?

I'm a 5'5" guy and I know far too well how important a man's height is when it comes to dating. It's pretty obvious no woman would ever give a man who is 5'5" a chance in hell... I constantly see guys that are ~5'8 and even taller complaining that they feel short, so imagine what I feel? Girls always give lame reasons as to why they wouldn't date short guys, one of them being the "security" thing. When was the last time you were attacked or someone pulled a knife or a gun on you? That's the job of the law to protect people anyway. So go ahead, give me the real reasons as to why you hate us?

Oh and by the way, why is it okay for women to make remarks or dislike a man because of his height but it's completely unacceptable for a man to say something negative about a woman's weight/size? This is highly hypocritical.

I've had enough of this f*cking nonsense and bullsh*t, and before someone comment on my bitterness, how would you feel if you were constantly discriminated by a highly heightist society? It's proven that we have multiple disadvantages because of our height (salary,respect,social status,number of partners,etc..). It makes me sick, literally.

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  • Anonymous
    9 years ago
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    I don't apreciate you including 'all women' in your little rant. For your information, i'm only 5'0'' buddy. I've dated plenty of short men. I know a lot of women taller than I am that have dated short men as well? I'm sorry all the women you've gone for are bitches, but not all of us are like that.

    and it isn't ok for women to make remarks about short men. I get called short all the time, and yeah, I know it gets tiresome. I get called that by men AND women. And I would never make fun of someone else for being short, yeah that inclues men.

    So before you go on a rant against women, how about you think about the short WOMEN as well. You aren't the only person affected by shortness when it comes to a relationship or job.

    However, I will agree on your sickness of the disadvantages and discrimination against the vertically challenged.

  • 9 years ago

    Actually the security thing is right. A lot of girls (not all) like feeling protected. If you are the same height as your girl then she probably doesn't feel protected.

    And about the women being hypocritical....that's not true at all. I've heard soooo many guys talk about how tall girls are disgusting. So actually it goes for both genders.

    I think you aren't hanging out with the right girls because I have dated a guy the same height as me and I had no problem at all. So yeah we don't hate short guys, we hate guys who complain about it ;) (even is the are 5'8 or whatever)

  • 9 years ago

    Not all women hate short men. I know a couple where the girls 5'8" and the guy is 5'5". But personally to me it's awkward to date a guy who's shorter than me. Especially me because I'm only 5'2" and if I can't wear heals around the guy then there goes half my shoes. However with your height I wouldn't mind because I am shorter than you. Just find a girl who's shorter than you and you'll be fine. Go out there with confidence and you'll get your chance.

    Go ahead and hate on a girl's weight if you want. Just never mention it to her face. Girl's are much more sensitive creatures and take things to heart. For instance, some guy made a remark towards me about my race that didn't seem like much to him but it really took out my self confidence.

  • txgrrl
    Lv 4
    9 years ago

    I understand your frustration. My husband is about 5'7" and I'm 5'8" --he doesn't like when I wear tall shoes. I would have dated him even if he was shorter-- height is a stupid requirement for finding a future husband/wife. The women who won't date you are superficial and shallow.

    It might be a symptom of the city you're living in. For example, women in NYC and LA are notorious for turning shorter guys down. It's really sad. It's the quality of the person that counts-- are they honest, hardworking, caring, etc. These are the important qualities that marriage is built on-- not something superficial like height. I'd say, if you continue to have this problem, you might seriously consider moving to another city where the women aren't so superficial. Probably a city where the women are more religious. I'm from TX obviously. Dallas would be good-- Houston too. You might join a church or religious organization and start participating in Bible study classes-- you might meet someone who has more depth to them. If you're not into the religious thing, you should seriously consider moving to another city. I met my husband on Eharmony. If a girl turns you down because of your height-- you wouldn't want to date or marry her anyway since it shows the quality of the woman.

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  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    Despite what many people will tell you, this is mostly a social issue rather than some biologically hard wired preference that women are unable to erase from their minds. People in general are afraid to break the norm. They do not want to stand out or do the right thing if it means disapproval from others. In fact people are afraid of many things, but especially the judgments of others. Understanding the female mind is key to understanding this issue. Of the two biological genders, women are by far the more social gender. They place a hell of a lot more value on appearances and social norms than men do. No reasonably intelligent woman in her right mind would say that she needs to feel protected and actually mean it. Protected from what, the rival tribes in the area? This is 2015, and we are long past the caveman days. I am a student in medical school with undergraduate degrees in Biology and Psychology, and I must say psychology has a lot more to say on this particular issue than biology does. There is nothing inherently wrong or unnatural about women dating men south of 5' 7" or men dating women taller than themselves IN THIS DAY AND AGE. For most girls (females who discriminate against men based SOLELY ON HEIGHT do not qualify as women) it is mostly about "looking" right in public and in Facebook pictures, not about you. Once you realize this, it is a load off your back because you know your height is not the issue. More importantly you have to make the choice to never give up. This applies to anything, but in this case it is love. There are women, however few in number (realistically about 8% of women), who would not have a problem with dating you. But you have to do your part and accept your height.

    Source(s): 5' 6" male. Been taking shit for my height since I was born in 1993, and still winning at life.
  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    Women are programed by evolution to look for the strongest male images they can find but a huge part of this is confidence as self confidence in both sexes is highly attractive. Also if you find this an issue why not think about subcultures within society where there is rarely a history of tall men - such as asian woman

    I think as long as your focus in on what you do not have - it will undermine your odds - I suspect you have many winning attributes - if people cannot see beyond the package then they are too shallow for you anyway

  • 9 years ago

    Well I am a girl and I would say the main reason for girls not wanting to date short guys is because the girl wants to feel short. Part of it is because we are insecure about being taller than you guys and we think that you wouldn't want to go out with us. I am 5'8" and I still have a lot of all short guy friends that I love because they have great personalities. I think if you don't worry so much about your height and just show off your great personality then you will have a girlfriend soon! Good luck out there!

    Source(s): Personal experience
  • 5 years ago

    I am a brief man (5'6") and i haven't any problems assembly and getting ladies. I get that there are plenty of ladies who appear down on short men, however there are plenty who do not intellect their guys quick as long as he stands tall on character and is optimistic in himself. If a lady won't have me due to the fact that i am too brief for her taste, then it is her loss. Just given that I didn't win the supposed genetic lottery and ended up over six ft tall, that does not discontinue me from residing a existence that a girl would wish to be part of. I would like someone to give an explanation for to me how is being quick inferior? Simply seeing that I will not be competent to play basketball doesn't mean i am bodily inferior. I'm in exceptional bodily shape and i'm a 4th measure black belt in Taekwondo. I can handle myself very good. I may not be able to bench press a college bus or developed for heavy handbook labor, but i am trained, cultured and can use my intellect. I will not be tall in stature, however i'm stand each inch or more taller than my little frame can erect. How does being short make me unattractive? I do know a lot of tall men who're uglier than an inbred. I'm 41, but i will be able to comfortably move myself as a person in his early 30's. One girl's canine is a different ones babe. Correctly, I nonetheless entice females of their 20's. I will be able to nonetheless look just right on account that i'm bodily fit and that i do not have any bad vices (smoking, medicines or heavy ingesting). Correctly, i have a thought that shorter persons look younger longer than taller persons. How are you aware we're unsexy? Once once more, one lady's canine is an extra ones babe. So long as I appear attractive for ONE woman, what the others consider of me doesn't matter. How are we pathetic, nugatory and are not actual guys? I am educated and cultured. I even have many household and friends who love me. So long as i have them, i am a long way from nugatory. You do not need to be tall to be a real man. An actual man is any person who stands on his possess ft, will pay his fees, take care of his household and might look a different man within the eye. I do know plenty of fellow brief guys who're more of guys than one of the vital tall men i do know. In fact, i do know men who are are dwarfs and midgets who are just as real of a person as any tall man out there. I've a question I need to ask you or anybody who don't have anything better to do than to put down any person since of our supposed lack of top. Do not you will have whatever better to hate on than us? Why is being short a challenge? Alternatively of claiming that i am too quick, have you ever critically viewed that probably you are simply too tall?

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    I totally understand what you mean, personally and i'm being human here..I think it's the facial appearance or the bone structure i'm attracted to.

    I personally think that the height thing is soo low.

    Believe or not everyone has a thing for unique things

    guys date small breast girls

    guys date skinny girls

    guys date opposite skin color that parents don't approved

    anyone dates anyone..

    it just depends where you are.

  • Steve
    Lv 4
    9 years ago

    Just be yourself. Try to make a secure life. You'll find someone. Your height is the last thing you should be bitter about. If you had no arms or legs it would be even harder to get laid.

    Source(s): 5'6 I don't care get money
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