how to make my husband love me who is having an affair with someone else?

you cant

Maybe you should ask how to make him love you again, or just How to make him forget that other chick! Be strong, and take a good look in the mirror. Have you been taking care of yourself? How about him? Do you keep the house clean, do you cook good? There are many thing we need to know before we can answer that question sweety. Is she younger? Older? single? Is she married too? Many variables here that can result in different outcomes should you decide to fight for him. Give me more and I will be able to give you better advice. For now, I say try to talk if you are willing to forgive him. Has he done this before, Hvae you? Give me more.

Why bother honestly you don't need someone like that in your life, It's impossible to make someone love you.

What is she giving him that you aren't? More sex? More attention? More affection? Better body? Less nagging? Then give him what he wants at home so he doesn't look for it elsewhere