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Can the court stop my ex-Mother in law from being with my ex wife when she drops off our child?

I live about 2 hours away and we have shared custody...I have our 1 year old daughter on the weekends and me and my ex wife meet about halfway at a parking lot in McDonalds in some small town...my ex wife, always brings her entire family with her and the only person who always makes a scene is her mother. One reason why I divorced my wife is because she is too immature to make her own decisions and her mom always had the last word, she could never stand up to her overbearing mom...her mom had a mindset that whatever was mine and my wife's, was hers too....including our daughter....and once I put my foot down and told her mom to back off it ruined our marriage because my wife went onto her mothers side and left me....

we meet when I pick up our daughter her mom usually goes into a cry fest like somebody died...she gasps for air and tears roll down her face the entire time she holds my daughter.....then she gives her to my wife and my wife gives her to me...I put her in my backseat and and shut the door...as soon as I shut the door my ex-MIL puts her face on my car back window crying uncontrollably looking at my daughter...of course, this gets my daughter upset, she doesn't understand...and this woman has the nerve to tell me "see? she's crying. she doesn't want to go with you, you should let her stay with us." and I try to make this as quick and want to get out of there because usually by now people are staring and it becomes a huge embarrassment ....this is what usually happens...but last weekend went to far....I pulled up, the usual happened, only this time, I put my daughter in the car seat and started up and made this quick, apparently, my ex's mother was in the bathroom when I pulled up and so I wanted to get out of there before she makes a scene like always... and as I was pulling away from the parking lot, this crazy woman comes running out from the restaurant and is crying her eyes out and chasing my car, behind me screaming "my baby my baby!" , this happened when I was even on the road and then she stopped chasing my car once I got to the stop light....and then she COLLAPSED in the middle of the road as I pulled away...this was a HUGE scene...

so thinking I got away from this giant drama queen I get maybe 30 miles down the road and a cop pulls me over....he asked me about what happened over there at the McDonalds because some bystanders were thinking I took off with HER baby, I told him what happened and how she was my baby, luckily I had the custody agreement in my glove box and showed him and he was nice about it but he told me I had to drive back so my wife could verify that I was the father...HUGE scene....I like to take advantage of the 3 days a week I have with my daughter and this wasted half a day because of her crazy mom! I tell my wife not to bring her mother but like I said before, her mom controls her..as a matter of fact, she controls the whole family...she is 43 years old and has NEVER worked in her life...she lives off of my ex FIL who I honestly feel sorry for who is in debt because of her...and my younger ex-brother in law who is sheltered beyond belief...he's 21 years old and has absolutely no friends and still plays with Pokemon....he works and gives his entire paycheck to her so she can spend it on herself.....but I don't blame him, I blame this psychotic mother who still treats him and my ex wife like their 10 and they follow her every command...and she has nothing better to do but try to make my life as miserable as possible by having to put her influence on my daughter which frankly I am very concerned for ..but she has no right to control me and the time I have with my daughter...I'm educated, I'm reasonable, I understand she s my daughters grandma and she loves my daughter, but this is way past crazy....so I'm wondering is it possible to get a court order that prevents my ex wife's mother being present at the time I pick up my daughter?

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  • Arrie
    Lv 5
    9 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    yes you can. put these examples in the petition to modify the visitation agreement. any and all evidence will help. do you have a call number for the incident with the cop? any witnesses? you word may be good enough but it can't hurt to bring a video camera or request a civil standby so either you have more evidence and a good police officer witness or the behavior will stop while you work on getting the orders modified. The fact that you have to resort to having a civil standby in order to keep your MIL in line will speak volumes about the situation to the court.

  • Rita
    Lv 6
    9 years ago

    You absolutely do have rights. Go to court (via your attorney) and ask for a modification as to the transition of your daughter over to your care during visitations. This woman is crazy.

  • Bobbi
    Lv 7
    9 years ago

    Once again, video her drama outbursts. Show your ex. Tell your ex you are concerned about her mom. Contact the courts, adn show the videos. Let them know you are concerned about her mental health, and are concerned about the safety of your child around this woman. Let them know you would like to see her get help, as this MIL was also the cause of your divorce since she overran your family.

  • mmm
    Lv 7
    9 years ago

    wow - I was going to tell you to stuff it and get over it - honestly

    then as I read more and more I went - holly cow

    there has to be something the courts can do to help you - start video recording the incidents

    that woman is plain crazy

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  • Lanie
    Lv 4
    9 years ago

    Repeat question. Consult an attorney.

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