I think being gay is a flaw. I know it sounds terrible but as a gay male I believe it. Anyone else agree?

This is a lifestyle that you won't be totally happy in. There will always be something missing. I am sure you know that already. Or, couldn't put your finger on it, but that is what it is. What it is, is about love. What it is for you is that need to have a male in your life to admire and help you out by being there for you and trying to help you to know the things that you should know as a man. This something missing is the type of relationship that you should have had with a father, or a man role model that you could talk to and learn things from. One that could show you, with the love of a man that cares, and not in a sexual way, but a fatherly way. This is an important missing relationship that can leave a male lost as he grows up. You have some strong feelings about your mother about it too, rather you blame her, or feel sorry for her too much. Your very sensitive. Your also very vulnerable. Leaving you an open target for any man that would hurt you. One that doesn't care too hoots about what you want. He is only going after what he wants. You know it too. You are not comfortable with that thought either. I honestly think that if you could meet a stronger type woman that would probably be your best way to go. Not be alone. She won't hurt you the way a strong man could, but she could be strong enough to provide you with knowing that she can be there for you when you need her. Help you to be the man, without expecting you to know all of how that is to be one, but one that will naturally takes it course as you go with a woman, and will allow this stronger woman to let up on having to take the lead of it. An opposite attraction, with a lot in common with her is what will fill this void of what's missing in your life. It is about love.

I wouldn't say it was a flaw exactly, two men or women in a relationship that love and can relate to each other is equally valid as a man and a woman.

As for reproruction, there are many straight couples that either cannot, or choose not to reproduce. So that makes no difference.

However, I do find it interesting that gay couples sometimes want children. This would be impossible if not for adoption.

Reproduction is only possible with a male and female, so without adoption, their lives are forever missing something. This can have a detremental effect.

Also people aren't born gay, they are made through their experiences (Mabe stated a few of them). Genetics maybe give an inclination but play a minor role.

Apart from that, I don't think there's any difference in the validity of the relationships between gay/straight couples even though they may operate differently with different dynamics.

Being "natural" does not even come into the equation. Our society is not exactly "natural" anyway. Animals don't have technology, and humans do not live in equilibrium with nature.

I find it interesting that you say you wish to be single for life. Why is this? Does it connect to an underlying issue? Maybe you're trying to avoid your sexuality by denying it comletely?

I don't see how it is flawed.

"I have always felt that being gay is not natural for many reasons such as two males cannot reproduce."

- So anyone who doesn't reproduce is flawed?

Why? First and foremost, "nature" sucks, so no worry about trying to appease it with being "natural". That, and not having children is awesome. It's not like we need another seven billion jerks on the planet.