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I've had issues for years with self-acceptance and homophobia. Despite this I have a strong desire to have a relationship or do something with a guy. Is it unwise to hookup with someone before I move past these issues?

I know this is not a question to ask online to a bunch of strangers, but any personal advice or experience would be greatly appreciated. You all don't know my story or who I am, but as a 21 year old college student I find myself frustrated. Only a couple people here at school know because I told them. I've been single my whole life and only kissed one person. I want to really enjoy college as much as possible but since I'm taking 7-8 classes a semester I really don't have time for a relationship

Here is my reasoning for not coming out:

Most of the people I know that are gay have stereotypical traits (gay lips, a lot of inflection in voice, clothing, promiscuity)

I do not want to be subjected to the gay stereotypes or want to make people uncomfortable. ( I know a lot of people are very accepting nowadays though)

My reasoning for it:

I don't want to regret not coming out after college.

I want to push myself as hard as I can and find my limit. However, I HATE the feeling of nausea...I think I may have a phobia of it. My question for you all is how long do you runners suffer the feeling before puking? For clarification, I don't want to puke every time, but once just to find my limit.

All I feel like doing...is doing nothing...my semester was very tiring and I think that's why I'm so exhausted. I don't want to be lazy but I just want to sit back and relax in the comfort of my bed...all day..

Im freaking out because I wanted to get some sleep before my 8AM final tomorrow. I also have an 8PM final. Anyway, its 3 10 AM here and I cant sleep..do i try to fall asleep again (ive already been in bed for 2 hours and feel no less tired) or do i study?? in other words, should i just go for an all nighter if i cant fall asleep??

I have a personal problem with being gay, so please don't say "b-b-but there's nothing wrong with being gay." It's fine if other people are gay, I'm good friends with some, but I feel differently about my own self. Long story short I don't think I was born gay and God meant for me to love women. To anyone who objects this proposal, don't answer my question because I'm entitled to my own opinion and what I truly believe. Anyway...do any other gays not act on their sexual desires and reject them? I had one experience with a guy (no sex though) but besides that I'm clean. It hurts to reject those desires but I'm only attracted to straights anyway. If anyone shares feelings with me please share!

Ok, I'm not in shape, but I've been exercising every other day for the past two weeks and I've felt the same after each workout- nauseous, dizzy, and I get headaches. Oddly enough I can still eat afterwards, so I still have an "appetite" (or at least the psychological desire for food...). My workouts either consist of 2-3 mile jogs, or abs, weightlifting, and 20 minutes of cardio. I've been getting a lot of sleep lately and I make sure to stay hydrated and eat right (sometimes, but it's hard when you eat campus food). Anyway, my dizzy feelings and headaches last for the rest of the day no matter what. Any possible explanations??

I drank last night, but I really don't think I should sleep from 2 30AM to 3 30PM..my alarm was set for 10 30 and I turned it off. The night before I got 12 hours of sleep...During the week I only get 5 or 6 and I know this isn't enough, but I don't think that justifies this.

Anyone have some input?

I was on omegle and I got horny, and wrongfully agreed to trade dick pics with a 16 year old guy. I only did it once but that was a stupid decision and the guilt burns. If I turned myself in, my life would be ruined, but I don't know how else to get the guilt off.

I'm a college music major and I'm booked...I care about my health but I need to do well in school...

I'm a college music major and I'm booked...I care about my health but I need to do well in school...

I'm 19 and I've gone to therapy for two years to help with depression and identify my sexuality/issues. (Not conversion therapy!) I have always felt that being gay is not natural for many reasons such as two males cannot reproduce. I've been single my whole life despite a little fling with a guy friend last year when I discovered I was gay (we just kissed once and cuddled shirtless). I'm proud of being single and hope to be that way for life. Anyone agree with me? I sincerely do not want to offend anyone, but this is how I feel. I respect other gay people and have some happy gay friends.

I know that just because someone else may be better than I am at clarinet, but I literally feel inferior to them even as a person. I'm a clarinet major and have seen high schoolers that are better than I am. I practice a lot but still find that I can't do things to the level they should be performed. I'm depressed because I'm gay and hate it, so I already have a low self-esteem. I go to therapy too and take anti-depressants. But anyway, can anyone relate to all this?

Let me explain myself-I don't feel that I was born gay. I view my homosexuality as a manifestation of my social issues I had as a kid. I do not mean to offend anyone by saying this-it's nice to see happy gay people but I used to have crushes on exclusively girls when I was young and do not believe I should be gay. I used to tell myself I was worthless because girls didn't like me..anyway, I just hate being gay and have only come out to a select few people.

I'm a sophomore music major and I play clarinet. Over the past year or so I have been practicing singing to improve my tone, pitch, and overall music-making. I recently discovered that I cannot sing a stable pitch. I try to use a consistent air stream with good support, but when I sing long tones, the pitch varies greatly (about 15 cents flat and 15 cents sharp). I'm not moving anything. What could the problem be?

How much would it cost to fix/replace a bassoon body lock?

I might be getting a house with a former high school friend, We're sophomores in college now. He isn't allowed to live with girls so he can't live with his mixed friend group. The reason I ask this question is because I don't want to make him feel uncomfortable in any sort of way. This is not a question of whether or not he accepts gays, I just don't want to cause any discomfort. I'm closeted and have only told a select few people that I have homosexual tendencies.

My friend wants to work out with me at the campus gym. I accepted her invitation but I'm afraid of what people will think when they see me lifting weights with a girl...am I just being too self-conscious?

Hi, I'm a sophomore clarinet music major and I'm having tonguing problems. It's been something I've been trying to diagnose and fix for awhile but it hasn't gotten better. I'm trying out for wind symphony tomorrow and I know there's no quick easy fix for this, but when I tongue the high register notes they are accompanied by an annoying grunting sound. I'm tonguing as lightly as possible, touching the tip of the reed while still keeping adequate air flow. My embouchure is good and I've been playing double lip. I make sure to keep my corners firm and to not move my jaw. Also, my setup is a Pyne Bel Canto mouthpiece with a 3.5 Vandoren and a Luyben ligature. Any input is appreciated! This is a very frustrating problem!

I've been going to therapy for 2 years and I'm even more depressed than when I started...I've had three therapists who just sit and talk to you, and charge you ridiculous amounts of money, Anyone else agree that therapy is a waste?