How to get my ex-love affair off my mind?

The below was written more for single people, but maybe there is stuff in there you can use.

How to move on from your ex:

Remove Old Photos: Make sure there are no photos of you and your ex lying around the house. You could be having a great day and then all of a sudden go into a drawer and find a photo of the two of you hugging in a swimming pool. While you may not have gotten sunburned at the pool, you might have gotten burned by your ex and you don't need to be reminded of it. Pack up all of the photos and put them in a box far away from any place you could stumble upon it. Save cell phone pictures to a folder in a location you never or rarely go to.

Go New Places: Going to the same restaurants, cafés and coffee shops that you went to with your ex should be off your radar. It's best to find new places with new faces. Don't go into places where they know you as a couple when you want the world to now know you as a single person.

Remove Cell Phone Reminders: Delete any old voicemail messages or texts from your ex. That birthday text message your former partner sent you last year might have been cute then, but if you stumble upon it now it loses its luster. Clear out your inbox and make room for all the new messages and possibilities.

Select New Music: Don't listen to songs that remind you of your ex. There's nothing like making an effort to put your ex out of your mind and then the song that played when you started dating starts up on your iPod. Clear the decks and make a new playlist.

Login to Your New Life: The Internet probably contains many reminders of your ex. Your Facebook may need the biggest clean-up. Head in there and delete any photos with both of you together. Also, the friends that went over to your ex's side of the fence once the split happened should be unfriended immediately.

Think Positive Thoughts: It's not just physical things that can remind you of your ex. Thoughts that we have can change our outlook on life, so think positively. Don't remind yourself of all of the things your ex did that you couldn't stand. Instead, be positive and focus on all of the things you're going to achieve in your new life.

Make Notes of Your Progress: Write down the progress that you're making as a new single person. Get a journal and put down your thoughts as they come to you. List where you've been and where you're headed. This will keep your eye on the prize -- happiness.

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Love can't be controlled, choose either your husband or your ex lover

If you wanna get your mind of him its not that difficult

You took your vows with another man, you pledged yourself to him and broke .. you cheated !

just the thought of this should be enough to cripple your feelings towards your ex, if still you need more you should recall the reason why you broke up with your ex in the first place.

The real problem is that being in the military leeds to being out stationed usually, which means less contact (the worst part is physical contact). Your physical needs weren't fulfilled and that is one of the biggest reason which caused you to cheat on him on the first place.

I Think you should stop seeing him. Also engage urself other activities that will take his memory away. Always believe ur husband is the king ur cannot afford to loose to another women and work toward making ur marriage the best u can.