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Is it hard to break passive aggressive behaviour in oneself?
I really do not want to talk to a counsellor (been there and done that) but I recognize some negative traits that I share with a co worker (who bothers me to no end)
I'd like to be able to correct this behaviour in myself and maybe improve things.
I find it almost impossible to get outwardly mad and express my displeasure by retreating. I tend to be socially withdrawn and feel that I have no real control of my life. I've got a big tendancy to avoid or put off the things that I know I have to do. I will admit to feeling somewhat burned out at my work.
I grew up though being told that one should just "suck it up" and not complain.
I feel locked up inside and kind of angry. I don't want to be a jerk all my life.
I find it almost impossible to get outwardly mad and express my displeasure by retreating. I tend to be socially withdrawn and feel that I have no real control of my life. I've got a big tendancy to avoid or put off the things that I know I have to do. I will admit to feeling somewhat burned out at my work.
I grew up though being told that one should just "suck it up" and not complain.
I feel locked up inside and kind of angry. I don't want to be a jerk all my life.
I don't even get openly angry when I anger others....nah therapy is a bit hard to get. I don't even have a family doctor now (sad but true...we have a doctor shortage here) and the clinics won't touch you unless it's something that they don't need to follow.
3 Answers
- ?Lv 59 years agoFavorite Answer
Well-- like so many opther issues-- admitting you have a problem is often the first step-- so congrats on that. With so little info to go on, I would guess that there are some deep seated trust/anger and or security issues-- likely from childhood that you need to resolve. Other than similar self analysis methods-- you might try exercise/sports to work off some agression or yoga, mediation and/or prayer for some inner peace. Taking a walk or run before work or during lunch will probably make all of your co-worker less irritating! ;) good luck
- MartellLv 79 years ago
Let's see---passive aggressive behavior manifests itself by making other people angry, which then allows you to be OPENLY ANGRY with them. Is this what you mean? Then I'd suggest you see a therapist who will help you get to the root of your anger and to express it safely in the office. I think it would be next to impossible to do it by yourself---because the whole system demands that you NOT see yourself as an angry person, and that you have to therefore act in an irritation manner to cause the other person to express anger with you. That then give you an "excuse" to explode/be angry with them! P-Aggressive people are next to IMPOSSIBLE to live with! They never give you any feedback that you are doing something that irritates them; their anger builds up and then they EXPLODE on you! I was married to a master passive-aggressive man! I finally gave up, as he'd never discuss issues before they built up to major, unresolvable problems!
- 9 years ago
Its always hard to change a trait that you carry but it can be done. You just have to look really deep in yourself and figure out the reasons you do those things and if you truly want to change then just work on it.
