My roommate moved my furniture?

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My roomie and I have been living together for about 6 months. We were good friends before and never had any issues. Now when we moved in I had a little bit of furniture: a lamp, a small bookcase, a sewing machine that doubles as an end table, nothing big. She had pretty much nothing except her mattress and clothes. After a few weeks I come home from work and she has moved in a (large) dining set, several end table/bookcase things, a couple chairs, and a very, very large entertainment center. I was surprised, but didn't really have any issue with it as I'm fairly easy going and wasn't planning on filling the house with my own stuff anyway. Tonight I came home after working a 24 hour shift to find my room has been filled with every odd and end of mine that she can find. She moved my lamp, my sewing machine, a throw blanket, even my spare keys and sunglasses which were sitting on the kitchen counter. I couldn't even open my door she just stuck it in there. I'm not a messy person, all of this stuff was placed appropriately and even if it bothered her, she could have just talked to me. I don't get it. Is this some passive-aggressive way for her to establish her dominance?

Update:

Oh and I also brought several baking and cooking tools with me that she has conveniently forgotten were mine. She tried to tell me that she bought new muffin tins and Big Lots. Funny, cause I remember my mom giving those to me.

pants_deb · Accepted Answer

I think you've answered your own question really.

Unfortunately you can be a great friend with someone until you live with them. Her behaviour sounds like she is trying to take over, i suggest you sit her down and talk to her about it discuss boundaries like going into your room and dumping all your stuff there is a big no-no. If she doesn't see reason after this sit down and still wants to act all dominant then tell her she can have the whole place to herself and the whole share of the rent too!

Anonymous · Answer

That's the thing. Moving in ruins friendships, seriously. My two friends lived with each other, now they can't stand each other, and one of them even stole from the other!

Anonymous · Answer

you need to get together and talk things over if its going to work write down all the points you want to raise with her there needs to be some house rules if you can not agree one of you will have to go find somewhere else and the one remaing will need to get new room mate

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