Thanksgiving day dilemma?

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Here's the problem: last week my aunt invited my husband and I over to have Thanksgiving with her huge family and we accepted. This morning (two days before Thanksgiving) I get a call from my mom asking about our Thanksgiving plans. I told her that we would be going to my aunt's house (her sister's house) and they were thinking they would come and have Thanksgiving at our house (they live eight hours away in another state). I suggested that we should all go to my aunts house and my mom was cool with it but my dad hates going there (not sure why) and says they don't know if they will come after all. So I made the decision that we are definitely going to my aunt's house no matter what because we have been invited and accepted. I should also say that I'm not all that close with my parents or my aunt. My husband is very close to his parents and says I should have cancelled my plans with my aunt and had my parents come over to our house. Do you guys think I'm wrong? What would you do?

Update:

My parents aren't alone, they have my two younger sisters still living with them. They tend to do things at the spur of the moment without much planning and sometimes it disrupts our plans. My husband insists that it's wrong to put my aunt before my parents but they invited us first and I accepted. Why can't they just come with us to her place? I hate family drama!

Turkey Sammich · Accepted Answer

it's fine

BJ · Answer

First you should ask your parents of what they wanted to do and your sisters too then ask them wether to all eat with you or all go to the aunts but me,I  rather stay home . Cook have deserts /coffee and can take a nap if you need too.And then you do have left overs when you go out to eat you dont have that!!!! Happy Thankgiving

ChemoAngel · Answer

YOU are correct, your husband is Wrong. Never EVER Accept an invitation and then cancel at the last minute. You are doing the right thing by going over you aunts' house because you accepted her invitation when she invited you. Your husband is wrong to just want to UP and Cancel what you already said YES to! Tell him he's Rude.

Tapestry6 · Answer

Really who will be more fun to have around?
Your parents or your aunt's company?
If you love your Dad and don't want him uncomfortable, well your aunt has a large group allready 2 less is not going to make that much of a difference to her.

Your parents will be alone, so unless you don't like them at all and think its okay for them to stay by themselves at home on the holiday, while you are at the aunts' house, who you say you are not close to, I would opt for the parents. You can still have time to tell your aunt you aren't coming.

I got a cancellation yesterday and its not going to affect me at all we have 11 instead of 12 and one just said she was coming last night.  As long as its not ON the day it  doesn't matter for those cooking for a lot of people.  On the day you are setting up a large table with chairs but even then we have changed things out at the last mintue.
Subtracting 2 is easier than adding 2.

Misty · Answer

Yes you should go to your aunts like you planned.
It does sound like your parents plans fell through
and now they want to use you as a back up. 
Don't do it. Just go to your aunts as planned.
Don't worry about your parents. They are 8 hours away.

Anonymous · Answer

Its just for a few hours and if you can put up with your folks for a few hours then you can do the samething with your aunt. Besides your aunt might suspect something if you cancel at this late date..

Anonymous · Answer

tell them

raina_vissora · Answer

You should stick to the plans you originally made.

If your parents don't want to come to your aunt's house, that's their choice, but you have already accepted the invitation, and it would be rude to back out at the last minute.

Plus, it was a bit rude of your mother to ask about you plans two days before the holiday... most people make their plans weeks in advance.  It kind of sounds like whatever they had planned fell through and they went to you as a backup.

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