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Should I stay or should I go?
I am stuck in a really difficult situation.
Let me give some background info:
I'm 19, never seen any member of my father's side who live in Turkey, never even seen my grandmother and grandfather.
I've never been to Turkey but have seen all of my mum's family because she paid for them to come here.
My dad always says I should talk to my family in Turkey (I live in Australia) but I feel like, he didn't care enough to send me there as a kid and they clearly don't care enough to ring me so why should I bother?
My grandfather died last year, I never got to see him and that made me sad for a while but I learnt to get over it. Now grandmother is old and sick and I was thinking of going with dad this January.
But here's the problem:
1) I've been working really hard to pay off my ticket and I feel like it's just way too expensive (I'll be losing all my savings to get there)
2) It'll be the middle of winter and it's in a village where nothing happens other than stay at home and occasionally go to the shops with some family..and eat and watch tv (in summer there are beaches and everything..)
3) None of my cousins will be there, I have at least 10 that I may not see until a few years later when I go back so I'm basically just going to visit my sick gran.
4) My autistic aunt has a brain tumour and this will really depress me and make the whole experience depressing.
So should I go or should I just go another time? I know it'll be sad if something happens to my gran but I just don't know.
5 Answers
- 9 years agoFavorite Answer
Even it is a huge hassle and expense I think you would regret it more not going especially since you didn't get to meet your gpa, I always wished I could have met my grandparents, they all died when I was little. At least you know that it'll be a sad time and you're dad would probably appreciate the support since it's his mother who it sounds like he doesn't get to see v often. And if that's not enough it'll probably get you brownie points with the rest of his family :)
Source(s): Personal experience - 9 years ago
I personally think you should go when you'll enjoy the trip, and you should not regret your decision to go or not. If your gran dies before you do visit, then you'll get over it like you did with your grandad. I think it would be more fun if you went while you had cousins around, if they're closer to your age. Your savings are important, but family is more important.
It kind of sounds like you've already made up your mind to postpone this trip. Follow your heart? Haha
- Anonymous9 years ago
Do it! You can't out a price on family and I'm sure it will be beneficial to find out more about your background and where you're from. Don't think of it as all negative, I'm sure if someones unwell they'll want positive things around them and they'll want to be Doing positive things, you'll kick yourself if you don't and at least if you go you won't have any regrets, no time like the future And for things like this there's no right time
- 9 years ago
Why go at all?It is a bit late to try and start a relationship that should have been started when you were a child.They may be related to you but it would just be like meeting just any stranger
- Anonymous9 years ago
I believe you should go..my grandma just died and I wished I spent more time with her
